UKbride Member Request 26 Oct 2017

Hello UK Bride, I would be so very thankful if you would please ask my...

Hello UK Bride, I would be so very thankful if you would please ask my #MemberQuest to all the lovely Brides To Be - I'm in such a dilemma I don't know what to do! Thank you so very much xxx #MemberQuest: My partner and I are getting married next July and I'm in a bit of a muddle about wedding shoes.... we are not having a typical "traditional" wedding, but are instead having a 'Swing Music & Street Food Theme Festival' at my friends farm, using their old barn, fields and garden as the repetition. If the weather holds out, the entire event should be outside, except for the dancing which will be in the barn. I've already got my dress sorted which is an ivory, lace, floor length dress, not puffy at all just straight down so I can dance easily. The problem I'm having is that I already own a pair of shoes that I would be very happy wearing on the day, but when I told my mother and MOH that I was considering wearing them (during the dress fitting) my mother was horrified and said I have to wear white/ivory shoes. The shoes are a medium tone brown leather Ankle Boot Style, with laces up the front and a wide heal about 3/3.5". I wear these shoes almost every time my partner and I go out for the evening, and they have never hurt, are extremely comfortable, and because they have a wide heel they won't sink in the grass! Plus I like that they are not the typical bridal shoes, as nothing about our wedding is traditional. So fellow UK Bride Members - what do I do? I like the shoes and know my feet won't hurt in them, but I'm worried people will think they are too odd under my wedding dress, which is quite floaty and lacey, and I don't want to look stupid. I know if I do get white shoes they'll only get wrecked in the grass, and I wouldn't be able to wear them again after that. Very confused so I guess what I'm asking is.... are brown lace up ankle boots a definite wedding no-no, or can I get away with it? P.S. The attached imagine is what I imagine/hope the look to be, with the second part of the picture showing the shoes I already have.

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 26 Oct 2017

Hi please yourself but look on e-bay wedding shoes and boots they have white,ivory and coloured ones and don't cost the earth. If the boots you are referring to are in the picture they will not do your dress justice, have a new pair and then change into your comfy boots after your photographs :))

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 26 Oct 2017

I personally wouldn't wear brown boots with my dress but that's because it's not my style so if that's what you want to do then go for it. You could always get a pair of shoes for the service and change into your boots for dancing in. Also, your shoes do not have to be white or satin. There's a lot of variety out there so I would opt for leather if they are going to get muddy so you can wipe them clean after. Ultimately it's your decision. I'm changing into converse for dancing in.

Zoe Atkins
Zoe Atkins 27 Oct 2017

I think they look fab - much more stylish than the wellies you often see at weddings in fields!

Helen Gough
Helen Gough 27 Oct 2017

Sounds like a really nice quirky statement for YOUR wedding! Ignore your mum and MOH it's bout their wedding it's yours Ann's if you are happy and comfortable wearing them then that's all that matters!!

Steph V
Steph V 27 Oct 2017

Love your idea!!, very close to what I'm planning.
GO FOR IT!!! At the end of the day if you buy new shoes which could cost £50 you'll ruin them, go for what makes you comfortable.
Guests won't remember your shoes, they'll remember your quirky wedding :).

Abigail McCarthy
Abigail McCarthy 27 Oct 2017

I like them! It's very different and if they're comfortable even better!x

Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 27 Oct 2017

The boots are personal, comfy and already paid for. Go for it. I've bought myself some new Doc Martens which I can wear after. I was going for comfort. There really is no point in buying shoes for the sake of it which are just going to sit in the back of the wardrobe and make you ache during your wedding day.

Deborah Cooke
Deborah Cooke 28 Oct 2017

Hi, you can buy bridal boots similar to yours, look on eBay. It's your decision not anyone else's, if you have doubts buy something else, if not then wear them. Good luck 🍀

Natasha Stephen
Natasha Stephen 28 Oct 2017

Go with what you feel comfortable in, I won't be wearing heals because i can't walk in them and my feet hurt after about 5 minutes. I will be wearing converse, something i wear practically everyday and find extremely comfortable.

Vikky Fishwick
Vikky Fishwick 31 Oct 2017

Just do it. I'm thinking of doing exactly the same (brown leather victorian style button up boots). No ones going to see my shoes so I'd rather wear something comfortable and practical. Ignore "tradition" just do what makes you happy, at the end of the day its you and your partners day, no one elses.


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