I'm not yet planning on looking at dresses but I know who I want with me when I try them on and this consists of my mum, brother, grandma, Nanna, my auntie and my cousin(who is maid of honour). My h2b says I should include his mum and his sister(who is one of my bridesmaids) but I just feel they are really opinionated and I don't know what to do. I know his mum will want to be involved but it don't really want her to be... my mum has reassured me that my family will be there so they will say something if they feel they are being unfair but I don't want conflict... I just don't know what to do.
You already have a lot of people coming with you, you can get his sister and mum involved with other things, but if. You don’t want them there don’t invite them. Word of warning - Before you go inviting a lot of people you will need to check with the place you are looking at dresses that you can have that many people, some places restrict the amount of people you can bring
Hi I will have my Mum, my bridesmaid and her Mum with me :)
You could invite them to a dress fitting once you've picked your dress
I would invite them after you have picked it. You already have a lot of people going and you dont want it to be crowded. x
I didn't invite mine however I kept the amount of people to a minimum (my sister) id like my dress to be a surprise for everyone.
could you tell them that only a certain amount of people can come as you have a few aleady and then maybe they can come with you for another fitting?
I went with just my mum, then when I had picked my dress, I showed my sister.
I didn't take any of my partners family x
I took my mum, my sisters and my now mother in law. I found it very helpful to have opinionated people with me. They all told me when a dress didn't suit me x
I had my mum, sister and nana. Didn't want anyone else there, i want it to be a surprise.
As MOG to be. I all you need to take dress shopping is YOUR mum. You dont need anyone else. Certainly mot your H2B mother. Take your cousin as she is MOH if you want.
But dress shopping for you is for you and your mum not his mum.
When my son marries i want to see his fiancees dress for first time as she walks down towards my son.
You can go bridrsmsid dress shopping with your cousin and his sister in your own later. No muns
I DID go dress shopping with my ither sons fiancee as her parents lived in Cornwall.and she was up.in Coventry where I live. It was a lovely experience. One i never thought I would have.
But its a MOB experience really
When I went to pick mine it was just me and my mammy. I wasn't really looking we just went into a bridal shop for a nosey and Wam bam I found my dress
I am only taking my mam, I want it to be personal for me and her. Girlie day, shopping and lunch
I had my mum and my MIL when I went to try dresses a few different times. I get on really well with my MIL and my husband is her only child, so this was her only opportunity to experience this. The day I bought my dress (unexpectedly) it was only me and my mum because my MIL couldn't make it. I did send her pics before I bought it though to keep her involved. I think it really depends on you, but I am really glad she was there to see me in dresses and share the experience xx
Didn't take either mum just my sisters. Tell h2b and MIL you want it to be a surprise for them. Or take them to a fitting nearer the time
Have who you want. Having my htbs mum didn't really cross my mind...why should they be there? Its you trying on dresses so its up to you who is there, it isnt an event in the wedding that requires peoples attendance lol if you aren't comfortable with them there then dont have them. I only had my mum, didnt even have bridesmaids etc
If you don't want to cause conflict with future in laws....just say you want your dress to be a surprise on the day. I had my dress made and the only person to see it was my dressmaker who happened to be my future MIL and she wouldn't let anyone see it until the day for that reason. Best of luck with finding your dress x
I took my mum, mother-in-law and father-in-law to be. My granny was supposed to come too but she wasn't well. You should check with the shops what their limit is. The shop I got mine from is quite small so all those people wouldn't fit in!
Ask any wedding dress shop and they will tell you the fewer people the better. You only want people who will genuinely assist you, not confuse the matter.
I went shopping with my mother in law and got her views, then i went dress shopping my chief Bridesmaid at the time and my mum. When it eventually came to getting my dress I went with my bridesmaids. That way everyone was involved and it was a lovely surprise for the 2 mums on our wedding day.
I just had my mum and my nan with me...i want it to be a surprise...also wedding shop I went to was quite small and wouldn't accommodate that many people. My MOH is coming to dress fitting with me x
I bought mine on my own, then had a fitting when everyone saw it, that solved all my problems
It's not them wearing the dress
I just took my mom, too many opinions may sway your decision, not everyone is going to like the same dresses but if you love one and half your family/friends don't, then you probably wouldn't pick it. I was happy just taking my mom with me. I also want it to be a surprise for everyone on the day,
Some shops only allow 3 at the most. I wouldn't take too many as you will have too many different views and will confuse you.
Go twice and invite them to one of them. The decoy.
Please bear in minds a lot of bridal stores tend to be teeny tiny and limit the amount of people you can bring with you to 2-3. I wouldn’t invite anyone (except maybe your Mum) until you’ve checked with the stores your wanting to visit.
Maybe you could get a couple to go to each appointment and when you’ve found the one take them all to the fitting.
I involved MOG as much as possible as my husband only has brothers so she has no daughter to do those things with. However we get on amazingly and have no issues. If I thought she was going to cause a problem with something I would not have asked her. Sounds like you have a great support network already. If she's going to cause conflict don't worry about it and maybe bring her to fitting/get your h2b to ask her for ideas for suits (obviously you don't have to listen to them) or something else she can do that you don't mind.
Some places limit the amount of people you can take....tbh I think you are already taking too many. Keep it simple. Once you have picked your dress maybe invite a few others to the final dress fitting.
That's already a big entourage to be fair. Most boutiques I have visited is a maximum of 4 including bride to be x
I only took my dad’s partner so my dress will be a surprise for everyone else. H2b mum will get to go dress shopping with her own daughter at some point so I wouldn’t take her, if she didn’t have any daughters herself then I would probably invite her, but don’t think u have to include her if u already have lots of people going. Good luck
most bridal shops only let u have 2-3 people so i would just choose 2-3 of ur most valued opinions to take for original shopping and then take others for fittings
I had my mum and both bridesmaids. I think the bridesmaids should be involved but not necessarily the mil... But it is up to you
You could always take his mum to a fitting?
I absolutely LOVED having my h2b mother with me dress shopping for many reasons.
1. She is brutally honest (I needed this)
2. She is about to become my mother in law and I've always seen her as family.
3. As my h2b is an only child this will be the only time she gets to experience wedding shopping for anything.
4. We had the same ideas when it came to dress shopping.
On the day I had my mum, h2b mum, my moh and 2 bridesmaids.
I wouldn't change a thing!! The final dress (my dress) I came out in everyone loved and I knew it was the one.
Having lots of people with different opinions can be stressful but it wasn't at all for me!!
If go back and do the whole day again if I could!!!!
Good luck and enjoy it!!!!
All bridal places tell you to have no more than 3 people there when you try on dresses as anymore results in conflicts of opinion normally and even results in full arguments sometimes. Because of this some bridal shops only allow a certain number of people with you when trying on so I would double-check. Good luck, I'm sure you will have an amazing time ans you can always invite other family to fittings and things im having my MOH, mum and fiances mum xxx
I only had my mum but I would have loved my husband's mum to come with me but she passed away before we got engaged. I would still invite your mil to please your h2b xx
I've worked in a bridal boutique and you already have too many people. It's a bridal shop's nightmare when a full entourage comes in who inevitably don't agree on things and it can be embarrassing - not to mention the bride who will be overwhelmed. You're going shopping, it isn't a family day out in a bridal shop. Make 2 trips if you must and keep everyone happy.
This is a really helpful thread! I honestly never thought about how many i can take ... sorry to jump in on this but I have to ask... have I got too many?!?! I wanted my sisters who are both bridesmaids, my mother, my niece and daughter (both flowergirls) ... is this too much?!?! I know one shop I want to go to only does bride and flower girls dresses. Any opinions are more appreciated!! X
I only took my mum, thank God! To many people makes for conflicting opinions.
I only took my mum and dad, it's a surprise for everyone else :)
I only had my mum and sister-in-law (matron of honour). I have invited my fiance's mum to the fitting so she will get to see it before everyone else and she was really pleased (especially since I'm not letting anyone outside my immediate family know anything about the dress - I want it to be a suprise for everyone)
That sounds like A LOT of people. I'm not sure how much it would confuse things because everyone has their own thoughts. Less night me more. I really don't like shopping so I took my mom and that was it to make life easier
I'll be inviting my mam mam in law my daughter my bestie and both grandmas but can guarantee I'll here but what about this person and what about that person. TOUGH ITS UPTO YOU who you invite.
I just took my mum. Couldn't stand the thought of a whole entourage with different opinions. If you take everyone then everyone will have seen your dress before your big day.
Why so many already,I watch "Yes to the Dress" always looks like a nightmare. Don't you have your own opinion?
I went on my own, tried on 8 dresses and bought one within 40 minutes..
That's a lot of people, as has been said make sure the boutiques you go to will allow that many. I went first with my mum, sister and best mate and it was lovely. I went separately the next time with my mother-in-law to be and it was lovely too. I think it's lovely to want to include everyone but that may be too much. Why don't you explain that you want your mum in law to be and his sister to have the "wow" moment on the day??
I only had my mum and Nan with me. It’s a very personal thing. My mum wanted it to be just us as I’m her only daughter and she only gets to do this once x
To be honest, the only people I'd have with me would be my Mum and maid of honour. With that big of an entourage, you'd get so much conflicting views, it would be so overwhelming.
I am going with one or two bridesmaids max, then when I have chosen the dream dress or got it down to a few then I will take mother in law, etc :)
Don’t take lots of people. I just took my Mum and it was perfect.
Check with the bridal boutique as sometimes u can only have a small number of people with u..when I went we could only take 3at a time due to having a small store..finding ur perfect dress is suppost to be an enjoyable time for u so if u feel they will damper that then I wouldn't invite them but maybe invite them at a later date for a fitting? There is so much they can be involved in so make sure u enjoy ur moment..
As I am 56 I will only be taking my daughter with me. Too many people means too many opinions and anyone of them could let on what your dress is like and spoil the surprise!!
I had my mum, my sister(who is a bridesmaid) and my daughter when I went dress shopping. I had planned to go more than once and take my MIL on another trip but I actually found my dress the first time! Take who you want and it'll be a surprise for everyone else x
Its usually just brides friends or family that go not the grooms. Im not showing anybody mine apart from my mum and sister who were with me xx
I don’t think it’s mother of grooms job to go...
I'm notsure ignite been said before. I skimmed the comments. Some bridal boutiques will also be funny about having a male there. In two of the ones I went to the guys weren't allowed into the area where dresses are being tried in. Especially at busy times and with other brides around. This is mostly due to not all dresses fitting correctly and so things cab be on show that people might not be comfortable with if a make is present.
Most places will limit the number of people who can go with you to no more than 3 people so you already have too many. If you feel that their opinionated behaviour could cast a cloud on the day, why don't you go shopping with the in-laws first, get it over and done with, then do it with your family?
When I tried on dresses first I took my Maid of Honour who is my best friend and my brother (he tells it as it is). When I decided I then got my mum and other bridesmaids along to see me in it and go out for lunch. Is this maybe something that is possible? I agree with other comments, some places will not allow that many people in so I would even double check that you can have all the people you want there, nevermind those who you don't. Maybe ask your H2B to get his mum and sister helping him with his outfit?
I didn't include my h2b mum or sister even though we are really close. They understood it was a mum, sister and bridesmaid thing. I am now going to take my h2b mum with me next time to see the dress as I'm wearing her veil. But she is happy to do as much or as little depending on what I'd like. Don't be pushed into doing what others want you to do!
I had my mum and two aunties when I picked my dress i then took my mother in law and sister in laws to one of my fittings to see the dress before the wedding day. Xx