Charlotte Hawk
Charlotte Hawk 4 Oct 2017

So I'm getting married in 45 days and not once have I got stressed or run...

So I'm getting married in 45 days and not once have I got stressed or run off of my feet with planning the day and we only booked the venue I'm June, I've been doing it all on my own as my fiancé works away, I'm so worried I'm going to have forgotten things as I've been so relaxed lol. Anyone else been like This? Thank you!

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Jenn Paget
Jenn Paget 4 Oct 2017

My partner also works away and does mean the planning is primarily down to me, but we converse as much as we can about the plans without making him feel as if it's the only thing I am thinking about. But sometimes I need his input to see what I've missed.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 5 Oct 2017

Other than the initial stress of trying to get a registrar and the venue on the same day I havent been stressed at all. Talk to your partner and have a look on a few checklists to set your mind at ease x

Faith Wymer
Faith Wymer 5 Oct 2017

Not just me. My partner doesn't work away however I've just got on with the planning and confirmed things along the way.. going pretty smoothly but photographer cancelled on us yesterday

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I had the mind set of "if ive forgotten something then it obviously wasnt that important" x

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 5 Oct 2017

I was so relaxed. Wasnt fazed by anything. Everyone was saying that i was the most relaxed bride ever. What will be will be, no point stressing over it. X

Alanta Emoh
Alanta Emoh 5 Oct 2017

Got married yesterday we booked and planned wedding in 44 days best day ever xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

We get married in 8wks, my partner is in the army so is away a lot at times, I think I am organised but I find myself constantly asking myself the same question but what will be will be eh :-) sure you will be fine tho X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I was exactly the same! It’s good if you can stay like that to the run up as you’ll find everything will feel relaxed!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I get married 7 weeks on Friday and I’m quite relaxed. I had a wee stress out moment a couple of weeks ago but I pulled everything out of my wedding box and wrote a to do list. Feeling much more relaxed now I would write a to do list just to make sure you haven’t forgotten anything x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

My daughter got married in may this year and everything was arranged and she was so cool and relaxed wks/days before it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

As long u have the main things stay relaxed. We had a couple of things running up to the wedding that caused a little stress but my husband kept reminding me the main things were sorted I.e venue, registrar and dress as long as u have these u r ready to get married! All those little things I.e decorations etc u won't even think about on the day so don't stress about them now

Janet Deans
Janet Deans 5 Oct 2017

I'm getting married next week and I feel exactly the same! I feel like surely I have missed something major, why am I not stressed yet?! We must just be laid back kind of people! 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

Don't worry, I'm the same!! I'm at 15 days and I feel so chilled, even with a few things left to do.

Charlotte Hawk
Charlotte Hawk 5 Oct 2017

Thank you everyone! I just felt too relaxed and haven't been rushing Around like crazy Lol! Glad it isn't just me

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I dont get married until July 2018 I hope i will be like u guys all relaxed! I am a organised person so should be fine.. you just hear lots of people saying how stressful it is and it freaks me out!! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I was the same. Got married last month and everything was perfect. 🤗

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

You just need you both, somewhere to get married and someone to do the ceremony and everything else is just details. Some food, guests and clothes are great, some photos... everything else is just creating extra memories. Lovely though the extra things are no one’s Marriage was marred because the napkins weren’t the exact colour of the bride’s flowers or whatever!!
My daughter’s wedding is in May. My husband and I took 3 weeks to decide to get married and the actual ceremony. It’s 30 years next week!!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Will you & fiancé be there on the day ?
Do you both have something to wear ?
Do you have somewhere to get married ?
Are those you love most going to be with you ?
Are you having something to eat afterwards ?

If the answer to all above is yes ,then you have the things that are important .

Everything else is fluff and doesn’t really matter
Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I was exactly the same until about three days before! Then it kicked in and I started getting super nervous. I didn’t stop feeling nervous until I reached my husband at the end of the aisle on the day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I was so relaxed before my wedding. My other half doesn't work away & had more time than me so I literally chose my dress & he did the rest. We also had our reception at our friends hotel. I knew I didn't want a sit down meal just a hot & cold buffet but I just told him to do what he thought so didn't even know what we were eating. We had an amazing day & everyone enjoyed it

Leanne Nicholson
Leanne Nicholson 6 Oct 2017

Our wedding is in 6 months, and I feel like I should have loads to do but I don’t really know what I need to be doing!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I was relaxed up to the week before! The only thing that stressed me out was organising my bridesmaids for the day! Don't take anything for granted that other people know what you want because it's traditional!

Dress
Underwear
Shoes
Hair & make up
Rings
Suits
Bridesmaids
Groomsmen
Flowers
Catering/entertainment
Cake
Speeches
Gifts
Transport
Photographer

Get a game plan sorted so everyone knows where they need to be and what they need to be doing one the day. Arrange times with everything, but try to remain flexible to avoid emergency stress on the day!! ️️️ Good luck!!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

As long as the big things are sorted the other things go unnoticed by everyone. Only you know about it. So don't worry and just enjoy your day. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

If your really worried about having forgotten something post a list of what you've done and anything really important people could post if you've forgotten it, it's better safe than sorry xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I was so chilled out that everyone else, well the mothers, got really stressed out assuming it was all out of control. I organised everything as my other half was concentrating on running the farm and building the extension. I made all my own bunting and made all my own stationary. Wedding was last Saturday and it all went amazingly! I’m a project manager and accountant by trade - I think they forget that organising is what I do for a living, lol!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Oct 2017

Best advice I got - if it’s not done by now you probably don’t need it anyway, and if you forget something your guests won’t know it was supposed to be there so no one will know any different. So I would say relax and enjoy the build up

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