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UKbride Member Request 4 Oct 2017

Hi, I'd like 3 ladies in my bridal party, one MOH and 2 Bridesmaids. I've...

Hi, I'd like 3 ladies in my bridal party, one MOH and 2 Bridesmaids. I've asked my MOH and 1 bridesmaid but haven't asked the 2nd bridesmaid yet. I've been having a think about who I wanted and I have a couple of friends who i've known for several years and although I love them just as much, I don't speak to them all of the time and it's more, catching up once every couple of months. I then have a friend who I only met in June, but I speak to her most days, do regular things with her and genuinely really get on with. My wedding is in July 2018. So, my heart tells me to ask her because she's a closer friend than some of the older friends and why shouldn't I just because I haven't known her long. Plus, by next July, we could and msot likely will be even closer and will i wish she was up there with me if I didn't ask her, probably. But is this weird? Has anyone else had a similar situation? I also don't know when to ask her... part of me thinks wait until the new year so that it's been a bit longer, but then I've already started planning and having chats with the other 2 in the bridal party and want her involved if she's going to be one... What are your thoughts? Sorry for the long message!

17 Comments
Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 4 Oct 2017

I think you should have who you want to have and have already answered your own question. Hopefully your older friends will understand why you have chosen her.

E Wilson
E Wilson 4 Oct 2017

Go with who you want. The decision is yours and yours alone.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 4 Oct 2017

Choose who you want and dont worry about what other people think x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 4 Oct 2017

Go with your gut feel.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Oct 2017

My bestie ended up basically fulfilling the maid of honour duties! I got engaged Feb 2015, met her in April 2015 and got married April 2016. She's still my closest friend now! I'd suggest you go with your gut, if you are close to her and love her then have her as a bridesmaid!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Oct 2017

I would go with what your gut feel, at the end of the day it's your wedding and in sure your friends will understand x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Oct 2017

Go with your gut I did I had my daughter and two others that I had known since they were born and then my new best friend of only 6 months I felt a bit weird but it was definitely the right thing and now nearly 8 months after we are even closer and I truly love her like one of mine own go for it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Oct 2017

Go with your gut, but be careful to be sensitive if your old friend knows the girls you've already asked. People talk. You've really answered your question though. I have a similar dilemma an have chosen to ask closer recent friends. Good luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Oct 2017

I have just be in the same situation and I went with my heart....and asked my friend, I met her when our oldest started nursery together 3years ago and we started to get close over the past year. I see, talk and do things with her more than my oldest friends so I went with my heart. And I wouldn't go back. Its not about how long you've know someone, its about how you feel and gut feeling. I think if you can't get the thought out of your head about asking her its the right thing to do and ask. And I'm sure she would be delighted xxx

Crystal Hood
Crystal Hood 4 Oct 2017

Surely this can only bring you closer even more. It sounds your intension to pursue a close friendship with this lady. Personally from experience bridesmaids are a nightmare to bring together so if you're not that close to others I would go for the one you interact with most. Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

I would suggest go for it and ask her!! Your heart obviously wants her more and I agree you see her more she knows you now at this time and you will always be happy that you did x

Chelsey French
Chelsey French 5 Oct 2017

I've only known my maid of honour for 2 and half years! It's not how long you've known each other it's the quality of the friendship ! xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

Choose who you know when you look back at your wedding your happy they were by your side

I haven't known my bridesmaids long at all but we're only getting closer and I know if I look back il be so happy that I chose them!

It's your day not theirs.

Joanne Lay-Treen
Joanne Louise Treen 5 Oct 2017

Choose who u feel u want with u if u feel close to her an want her with u ask her asap xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

Go with your heart

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

She sounds like the friend that is going to be by your side through everything and would be a much more active bridesmaid than the others. Maybe have your older friends as witnesses so they are still involved

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

My now best friend, asked me to be her bridesmaid only a month or two after we met at work! The wedding was the following year and only made our friendship stronger! She's now going to be my maid of honour go for it!

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