I'm considering getting married abroad (USA) but all our family are in the UK, we would have an evening celebration back home at some point afterwards but want to invite everyone to the wedding also. How do I word it so that people won't be disappointed if they can't come, like a no obligation open invite?
Hi Can you afford to pay for everyone to get and stay in America :)
My cousin is getting married in cyprus, and her invitation said... We would love for you to share our wedding day with us. However, we understand this is a huge ask or not even possible for some.. Then the rsvp said wouldn't miss it for the world or will be toasting from afar. With details of where they are getting married and who they booked with :)
Myself and partner are doing this. We gave close people to us the option to come and explained understand if cant afford it no pressure etc and for immediate family we are going to make small contribution to flights for usa xxx
I've heard of people setting up video link for ceremony so people can watch you get married if they can't actually be there x
We have just got married in NYC (AMAZING!) and when we decided we told people we wanted there and those that couldn't make it like grandparents understood. When we came back and had the evening reception we had afternoon tea with grandparents, showed pics etc and it worked really well. Those that came made it their summer holiday. Both our parents made it a 3 week trip in America. We gave plenty of notice (2 years) so everyone knew. Xxx
Our Chapel had a live stream and was also available to view for 7 days afterwards. Lots of people were watching in their pjs and fascinators :)
After booking and paying deposits on a uk based wedding and reception, and sending out save the dates, we decided That We wanted to go to Vegas to get married... we told our families and close friends face to face, and fully expected them not to come, but made it clear that we would love them to be there (Vegas isn't everyone's cup of tea, which we get) however, we gave them 18 months notice, and to our surprise 16 family and friends are travelling with us, including my 80 year old nan, which is awesome. We are also having a party when we get home, using the venue originally booked to celebrate with all of our family and friends. My point is, weddings are about what you two want, (I booked the UK wedding to please our families, I have always said I wanted to get married in Vegas) and yes, while it would be lovely if they could all be there, you have to please yourselves and not everyone else, no matter how hard that may be. You want to luck back on your day with cherished memories, whether it be an wedding abroad or a wedding in the UK. Good luck with your wedding planning, and I am sure it will a fabulous day no matter where you are xxx
I think that if enough notice is given loved ones will make every effort to come I'm sure!! As for wording.... "we would be honoured if you can join us to help us celebrate however we do appreciate this is a huge ask and may not be possible for some".
Or a little poem....
We send you this letter explaining our wedding plan.
We'd love you to be there, and we hope that you can.
We will be getting married abroad somewhere nice and hot.
We wish we could pay for you but it would cost us quite a lot!
For this reason we are asking you to bear our date in mind.
So if you wish to join us, we think it awfully kind.
We realise it may not be possible for everyone to come.
And understand if you cannot attend as it may be a hefty sum.
We plan to marry (date) and we hope you can be there.
But if you can't please don't worry as we will be celebrating here.
We need to finalise the details, the destination and such.
We will keep you updated on the info and will definitely be in touch.
Good luck x
Expensive for everyone. Flights hotels on top of everything else. And time off work
We hope that your can share our day,
We know it's a lot to ask of you.
So if it's too much do not worry,
We are celebrating when we get back too.
Im getting married in Cyprus and aim to set up a video link for family that cant make it and likely a party back home