Gail Shaw
Gail Shaw 25 Aug 2017

Hi all, tried some dresses yesterday, got down to 2 I really like but been...

Hi all, tried some dresses yesterday, got down to 2 I really like but been told one makes me look like a tart ???? I know everyone has their own opinion but it fit me perfectly and I think I would have gone for it if not for that comment, advice please x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

If you like it then go for it, it's your dress!

Elizabeth Nelli Moors
Elizabeth Moors 25 Aug 2017

its your day! so your choice, if you loved the dress and it felt right for you then no one else's opinion matters. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

I'd say if you've got it down to 2 that you really like then you need to keep looking! When the find the one you'll know x

Kim Louise Taylor
Kim Louise Taylor 25 Aug 2017

Who on earth would tell you that you look like a tart? You wear whichever one you like the most and will make you feel the best in. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

1. Who's day is it? Yours
2. Who's wearing the dress? You
If you felt it was the 1 for you go for it. It is nobody else decision but yours x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Pick which one you like the best. Whether it's "tarty" or not is subjective,I'm sure a lot of people would consider it elegant and classy

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Oh dear the green eyed monster sounds like thsi remark,was this a rele or a "friend" horrible thng to say,why I always go shopping on my own,not interested in other people opinion

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

If you like it sod everyone else. It's your day and if you like it that's all that matters x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Who the bloody hell told you that!! If it were me I'd give them the finger and go for what made me feel beautiful.

Emma Bonnar
Emma Bonnar 25 Aug 2017

Re-try the 2 dresses on. I said yes to the dress 2 days ago. But it was only after trying several different styles then going back to 'The one' that I got the feeling I cried the second time and so did my mum and maid of honour x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Whoever said it makes you look like a tart would be getting told not to bother coming to the wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Wtaf?! Unless you were wearing a Las Vegas show girl dress I really wouldn't worry, you have to love it! That comment was mean and unnecessary

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 25 Aug 2017

Hi have what you like you are the one wearing it :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Neither because when you find the one no ones opinion will matter and no other dress will compare x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

I sent my Bridesmaids pics of my three final dress choices and my mum came to try them on again.
I went with the one that all of them saw as last favourite or didn't like at all. Them not liking it helped me confirm that this dress was the one. If it's the one, it's the one. No one else's opinion matters! Hope that whatever dress you go with, you are happy

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Whoever said u looked like a tart, she is obviously jealous and not a true friend xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Try the dress again and see if you still love it...don't take the rude person who felt the need to trample on your confidence. If you love it and think its the dress, have it! I doubt very much that you looked like a tart in it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Go back & re try both dresses. Just go on your own. Trust how you feel. Good luck.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Sounds like a jealousy comment to me!! It's your day and you have to wear the dress if you liked it and it felt good and comfortable and even made you feel a little special then why not!! It's your choice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

If you wear the dress again and still feel amazing- buy it. And then for your wedding breakfast have a special tart (chocolate or jam for example!) served to the person who felt the need to say that. Then you can laugh off the unnecessary comment and not let it upset you. :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

If its 2 you like then neither of them is the one. When you try the one. Any other that got on your top 5 list would drop straight down and wouldnt even be comparable. You wont want to take it off and when you do you'll want to try it on again x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

What horrible person said that. How rude

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Your day.. your choice.. if it made you feel amazing then buy it.. ask yourself why they said what they did.. jealous.. bitter.. or is the dress a little different and daring.. if you have the figure... you go girl.. regret is something that lasts forever.. their opinion only hurt for a moment.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Firstly how rude of whoever it was hat said that!! Secondly Everyone has their opinions of what a 'bride' should look like.... at the end of the day you are still you on your wedding day so wear whatever you like!! My dress is quite plungy so I will have cleavage on display, some say that a bride shouldn't do that, but I like it and it's my wedding and my choice!! Go for it girl, and enjoy every minute of it!

Holly Goodwin
Holly Goodwin 25 Aug 2017

I'd go for the dress you feel the best in an I bet your other half will love it an that's probably more important,
Also the person who made the comment dependeding on who it is for example if it was an elderly relative such as a Nan I'd just take the comment on the chin. Obviously what was considered a wedding dress to when she was younger to now a days is very different an she was probably just being what she thought was "honest" just explain (if it's still bothering you) that style has drastically changed now an maybe show her some examples of ppl in a similar wedding dress maybe. I'm sure she'll come round to it an if not slip her a sherry bet she won't care on the day 😉 just try not to let it get you down x
However if it was a someone say "a friend or sister" then if you really love the dress then get it an make sure you rock it on your big day an show them all that you look fab an don't care an your taste in clothes an the way you dress is one of the reasons your partner loves an fancys the dress of you 😉

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

Just wear the dress that you feel good in not what someone else thinks you look good in I did and every body said how stunning I looked which was very nice to hear when your fifty seven years old so follow your gut and enjoyxx

Sarah Nicholls
Sarah Nicholls 25 Aug 2017

I'd go back on your own and try both on again and see what you think. Good luck xx

Sarah Farley
Sarah Farley 25 Aug 2017

It Depends, Did You Take This Person With You Because You Valued Their Opinion. I Don't Think It's Jealousy Or Mean If They Were Being Honest. If You Like It Go For It, But In Future Don't Take Others With You To Try It On x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Aug 2017

I wore a black dress ...i had comments about funerals, goths, morbid and a few even said oh sorry lol ....sorry for What? I love it ...it's gorgeous and I feel beautiful in it ....white looked revolting x wear what you want!! X

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Veronica Dewar
Veronica Dewar 26 Aug 2017

My comment would of been along the lines of at least i know my h2b will like it or it could be more tarty. But its your decision

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Aug 2017

Main advice .... DONT go shopping with the person that said that

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Aug 2017

I was told not to have a stapless dress coz I've got a big chest go I go one with detachable straps....I didn't bother with the straps all day. Just have what you want and what feels right. It is the most important dress you ever wear and it's entirely up to you xxx

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