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I'm conflicted as what to do regarding bridesmaids We have decided to have...

I'm conflicted as what to do regarding bridesmaids We have decided to have 2 or 3 people each at the front with us. Meaning I can have 2 or 3 bridesmaids. This is now where I feel conflicted, I have 3 sisters and 1 cousin My eldest sister and my cousin have had me as a bridesmaid so I feel obliged to have them as mine. But then that's going to cause family issues. But then not choosing family might cause issues. Help or advice is much needed please and thank you! Sorry for the ramble

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Yasmin Manser
Yasmin Manser 23 Aug 2017

I would ask them outright and see if they want to be bridesmaids. Some people dont fancy it, just explain the situation and they should be understanding. I have been bridesmaid for people before but theyre not going to be mine x

Alison Jarvis
Alison Jarvis 23 Aug 2017

Hi you could have your three sisters as bridesmaids and ask your cousin to be a witness For signing the marriage license

Megan Garlinge
Megan Garlinge 23 Aug 2017

I agree with Alison. Have your sisters as bridesmaid and ask your cousin to be a witness. And maybe explain that you have agreed to only have 3 bridesmaids

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

You are not obligated to have anyone! They asked you without being yours first after all. Choose the people you WANT, not those you think you're supposed to.

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 23 Aug 2017

Why have you made such a random decision? Why can't you have the 4 closest women to you?
Sorry but that decision seems odd especially if it's going to cause issues.
Surely you can just agree to 4 people each 🤔🤔🤔

Tracey Whitehouse
Tracey Whitehouse 23 Aug 2017

It's YOUR day. Do what you want. Weddings always seem to bring out the worst in families, so you may have to come to terms with the fact that you may inadvertently upset someone whatever you do. It's the day when you marry the person you love, so do it your way.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I ended up with 8 bridesmaids to keep the peace was happy to have them all on the day though. Cutting out people you want just so you can stick to a certain number is just making it harder for yourself

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Why can't you just have 4 bridesmaids? My husband had 3 groomsmen and I only had 2 bridesmaids. They don't have to be even numbers. It's who you want to be apart of your bridal party!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I have ended up with 8 big ones and 2 little ones as i have chosen the ones i really really wanted. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I would have your sisters as bridesmaids.
Explain to your cousin that she is very much wanted at the wedding but your sisters cone first.
Personally i would have 4 bridesnaids

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

My husband had 3 groomsmen and I had 1 adult bridesmaid! Matching numbers isn't really a thing unless it's what you want.
Have the 4 of them :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

Just have 4 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

Sisters should come first unless you aren't close to them

Tara Heselwood
Tara Heselwood 24 Aug 2017

It's your special day no one eles it's up to you your family and friends should be supportive of your choices x

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