Ok, so the idea of a big huge wedding costing lots of money is making me nervous but not as much as how stressful it will be. I've been thinking that id love to plan an engagement party but when guests show up I announce that we are actually getting married there and then!!!! Thoughts on the idea?! Future hubby isn't into it.
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
If you feel this is something that you want to do then I would definitely do it. The only thing I would remind you however is that your witnesses have to be aware of this being an actual wedding so it will need to be people that you trust.
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Do it.
My friend held a fancy dress party, I was invited but unfortunately could not attend it as was in London and I could not get there at the time or was busy, cannot recall which it was. I wish I had now as everyone turned up in fancy dress only to find them in suit and wedding dress to get married.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
That's a different idea! If it's what you want then go for it! I'd just be mindful of giving people enough notice though as if they couldn't make it they might be a bit gutted x
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
My friend gave loads of notice, think she was saying it was a joint birthday party which was fancy dress or something like that. Saves all the hassle of people saying go for this and go for that and do this and do that.
The difficulty with not telling people that it's a wedding is that some people might not be able to get the day off or whatever, and might not push it because it's the engagement party. For example if my boss told me I couldn't have the day off I'd probably be like oh okay, but I WILL be having the wedding day off! Whereas if he said no to the wedding, an argument would ensue and I'd be making sure I was there. If you see what I mean? Sounds harsh, but people might not make as much effort to be there if it's difficult because it's not the wedding, and to then find out it was the wedding they might be a bit upset if they couldn't make it because they thought it was the engagement party.
I'm just rambling now. But there's no reason you can't plan a low key intimate wedding, rather than sudden surprise wedding. Also if your H2B isn't into it, remember that it's his day too and whilst you'll probably have to compromise you probably shouldn't do something he genuinely just doesn't want to do xx
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Only problem with doing that is people won't try as hard to attend an engagement thank the wedding itself so might miss out as they'll think its ok if they can't make it as they'll be at wedding and I personal would prefer to know of I was going to a wedding but do what u feel happiest about. But if ur close to parents I'd be feeling them otherwise they might feel offended x
CommentAuthorAmandaK74
it sounds fun, its your day and you should do what you want not what others expect of you, you would however have to get your OH on side 1st. Good luck with whatever you choose and most importantly enjoy it
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
That would be so fun!
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