Wedding Forum - Family not showing any interest...

Hi all,

This is my first post so hello :)

I went shopping with my mom and bought the most beautiful dress and veil. A-line, very plain with detailing on the bust area. Button cathedral length train and a cathedral length veil with sparkles on it. It's beautiful. We went into the shop to size it up to see if it was any good as we only had about 2 hours spare but I tried it on and we both fell in love. Mom started crying and that was it. It was sold.

Trouble comes when I get home. I show my dad and sister (also my MOH) and neither of them show any enthusiasm. First thing they both say is I can't believe you bought one. Why did you buy one. Then MOH asks me to try it on but I barely get an it's nice let alone the it's wonderful that I feel it is. I don't know if I've done the right thing.

I'm generally feeling a bit low at the moment and now I'm sitting here on the verge of tears thinking I've made a massive mistake.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Thank you
Emily

That's the thing. He doesn't like me at the moment because every wedding dress I see I ask him if he likes it. And not only did I fall in love with it but it fitted in with what he was saying he liked too so I know he will like it.

I just feel really deflated as those 3 are the only people who will see the dress before the day. Even my other bridesmaid SIL won't be seeing it so their opinion is really important

I think you need to trust your own instinct and judgement. Yeah it's nice to receive compliments and reassurance from other people, but if you truly love this dress and know it's the 'the one' then I would stand by that, regardless of what anyone else thinks. You said your mum cried when you tried it on so you must have looked beautiful x

I think they will probably be more excited closer to the time.

At least your mum was on side... we booked our wedding 20 months in advance and neither of our parents were as excited or interested as we thought they would be earlier on.... it has only been more recently that they are getting excited and listening more to things.


They were probably just shocked that you have bought it so far in advance, but if you love the dress then don't worry about it. Try it on again closer to the time and see if you get a better response from them.

My mum and Auntie are the only one's who have seen my dress btw..

bridesmaids might see if before the big day, but I'm not sure if they will or not-I might just keep it as my mum and Auntie who have seen it. MIL has said she wants a surprise, although she explained what she imagines I will get and was pretty much spot on. My brother (who is giving me away as my dad passed away when I was younger) has said he would like to wait and have it as a surprise on the day as well.

Thank you. I love it. Woke up this morning and it was the first thing I thought about so definitely the right one. I'll try to get some pics up later. Not sure how to do that :)

Mom is really into the wedding planning already. so at least I have her to talk ideas through with. And my OH is getting more into it now we've been to the church and venues so looking good

Nearer the time they will show interest, it seems very far away to other people who aren't the bride and groom sometimes :)

Promise will try to add the photoS later. They were taken by my mom so are not the best but I love it :)

Ahhh it's lovely and suits you beautifully!! x

I love the train! The whole thing is beautiful :)

Congratulations on your engagement

Your dress is beautiful. I'm in a similar situation to you, my mum and MOH are not really interested in my wedding but like the others say, because it's not til next year they aren't as enthusiastic as we are! I'm enjoying the planning and so should you..... The others will show interest soon enough. Don't get too disheartened xx

Your story feels so similar. We went out with our friends a week after we got engaged and it wasn't mentioned at all. Ended up helping to decide the best man which he wasn't happy about. And then we were talking about a new way of saving with the in laws when mil says. But I thought we could go the Florida theme parks for her daughters 21 St you will come won't you. This was the first we had heard of it with her expecting us to pay for ourselves when for my OH they just went for a family meal. Seemed very one sided and no consideration for what we wanted or needed to do for our future.
My oh has his jobs as well as we are doing the big things together so he's really excited. Which is lovely. Only downside is he realised what had upset me Tuesday and now knows I have my dress noooo. But he doesn't know what it's like.

I'm liking this forum. Everyone is excited and happy for each other because they understand!! Is so lovely!! X

I know. We've been engaged over a year now and only just starting to plan! Partly money reasons but still one hell of a delay.

Today we went to the pub and it was bought up by MOH/sister. I love my dress but am really struggling with this. Debating taking it back (I have 14 days) and trying to find something similar closer to the time. What do you all think?

I agree with GF, if you love it and honestly think you'll be just looking for another one the same closer to the time then don't take it back. How gutted would you be if you couldn't find one that matched up to it?

She does not have to wear it. IT is so annoying when others put down a dress that the bride obviously loves so much. They should respect that. You love it, you know you are not making a mistake, and like you and Donna said, you would only be looking for a dress similar to that one come nearer the time, and you will be so upset if you could not find one and settled for second best.

Why does it even concern her? It's your wedding, your dress.. You do what you want!!! X

Good stuff, glad you've decided it's not going back

I agree with IDL it sounds like jealousy.

Even if someone I knew bought a dress and I thought it was too early, I wouldn't keep on at it... in fact I wouldn't say it at all if they had already bought the dress.

It's a bit like telling someone you hate their babies name after they've registered them as it.

Donna. I LOVE the comparison of a dress with a baby's name :) that made me smile

And yes I think at the moment she may cause trouble for us. We were talking about our very tight budget £10,000 and she thew a strop saying how are you going to get this big weddings your talking about for that. Everyone else is being supportive with it saying they will help us sit things to keep costs down. My moms doing flowers and my aunt is helping with all stationary and paying for honeymoon (my 21st birthday pressie I haven't cashed in yet). I'm positive we will get what we want but with her it was a no way. Not worth trying attitude.. Puts a downer on things