How many of you are asking your bridesmaids to come help find a dress with you? Or if you are already married or already have your dress, did your bridesmaids help you or come with you? I've always had it in my head that I'd just want my mum there with me, but I think my girls think they will be coming with me when I start looking as they started talking about drinking champagne and stuff the other day! Would it be mean if I didn't invite them?
It would probably be really hard to get them all together on the same day anyway and one of them lives in London so doubt she would able to come, so I'd rather not invite any of them than have a few of them, as wouldn't want to upset the ones who couldn't come. And obviously I don't want to schedule finding my wedding dress around other people's plans...
I also want the surprise factor on the day when we get ready together in the morning and they see me in my dress for the first time. What did everyone else do?
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I found my dress and ordered it, I showed my bridesmaids before ordering, but knew that was my dress. I'd not even seen it so yes I took a risk. When it came in, I took them all with me except step daughter as she didn't want to.
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
The first shop I went in, I took my mum, then we went to another one and took my mum and my Auntie-that's where I found my dress.
I went to another shop with my bridesmaids and then we went back to the shop where my dress was, it was closed due to a family emergency and we ended up looking in another shop, where I found another dress. However, when I finally went back and tried my dress on again I knew it was the one and I put my deposit down.
My bridesmaids still haven't seen my dress, as we haven't had chance to do it while they've been up here. They may come to one of my fittings or it might be a surprise for them as well on the day, we'll have to wait and see.
If you really just want your mum there explain that to them, once you find your dress they can always go and see you in it before you order it. Sometimes you can have two many opinions, I found it quite hard just having my mum and my Auntie there, as they both have different opinions and unfortunately my Auntie is more like me, so it was a little awkward as we liked the dresses my mum wasn't as sure on.
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
My only BM is my sister, she came with me dress shopping. My sister gets married next year and we are going dress shopping together with her other BM to find her dress.
If I was in your shoes I woul arrange dates with your mum and then say to BMs this is the dates we are going if you can join us great if not don't change the date. However if you are set against your BMs doing this then just say you want your mum to be the only one with you.
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Just tell them that you would like to keep the dress a surprise from them until the day.m
I definitely wanted my bridesmaids there. My mum lives too far away to come dress shopping with me. I took oh mum and my 2 bridesmaids. They know me better than anyone and I'd be so worried if I didn't get their opinion that they might feel I'd made a mistake with my dress. I know they would be honest where as mothers can just be so gushy I wouldn't have got a true reflection of what dress was best.
However it turned out oh mum knows me better than I do as she chose the dress ill be wearing! X
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Mum and most of my bm live in Brazil and I will be ordering my dress in England. So they won't be able to go shopping with me. Soooo, I'm taking mum and my Brazilian bridesmaids for "dress shopping" here in Brazil, just to give them the experience. In England, I'm taking my MOH and my future mother in law. I would love to have all my girls with me. Unfortunately I can't...
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
I went with my mum, mil and fsil aswell as my son. 1 of my sisters work and could never get time off and my other sisters are at school so they couldn't come either x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
My mum, sister (MOH/CBM) and my best mate (BM) all went dress shopping with me and helped choose the dress.
You could just set the date and time, book the appointments and let them know where and when, if they can make it then great, if not then tough luck for them. Unless you don't actually want them there which in that case just don't invite them.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
But even then I would still feel uncomfortable that some of them would have shared the experience with me and some of them not... I really think I just want to go with my mum and keep the dress as a surprise for the day. I also don't want to take away the significance for my mum.. This is the only time she's going to experience this as I am an only child and it would mean so much with just the two of us I think. I want to bring my FMIL along to one of my fittings as she has 2 sons and so won't experience the whole dress shopping thing, I think it would be nice to include her in some way.
I think I will just tell the girls I want it to be a surprise, just wasn't sure what the 'done thing' was x
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CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
They'll understand Flossie. Remember it's your day so you can do what you want :-) x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
They will definitely understand and wouldn't get funny about it at all, I just felt a bit awkward when 2 of them were talking about dress shopping and drinking champagne etc. as I'd never mentioned to them that I did want them to come with me! X
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CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
You'll have to do that when your BMs try their dresses on :-) x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Yes good shout :) I do want to make a special night of it when they come and try their dresses on, as we never got to do the whole bridesmaid dress shopping thing either it would be nice to make a girly night of it x
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CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
:-) sounds like you'll have fun x
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I'm sure you can think of another reason to drink bubbly with them... while you're sorting out invites or favours or something ;)
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
The first shop I went into was where I found mine; I had my mum and my moh with me since my other BM couldn't make it. my moh found a dress she loved and if we ordered two or more that weekend then they both became half price so instead of paying £300 for two dressed; I only had to pay £150 as technically got on free; My other BM came 2 weeks later to try the sample dress on and she loved it but I was nervous that she wouldn't so if I was you I'd ask them to come with you :)
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CommentAuthorJennK
i found mine with just my mum, then took all the bridesmaids in later to make sure they liked it too, and then we ordered it :)
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
i did plan on taking my mum and all my bridesmaids but i as my MOH is now getting married a few weeks after me i will be taking my mum only and maybe my MIL (we get on fantastically) xx
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CommentAuthorKatieH
I only took my mum with me. I asked one of my BM to come too (my other BM was working) but then she said she couldn't come last minute. Now I'm really glad only my mum came as I only had my mum's and the shop owner's opinions. I'm going back in March and again only my mum is coming with me. I think it makes things difficult when you have too many peoples opinions xx
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CommentAuthorKatieH
The bridal shop where my dress is from didn't offer champagne anyway, only water x
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
Yeah we didn't have any champaign in any of the shops I've been too.... coffee only ;)
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I might take my own bottle to my last fitting ;)
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CommentAuthorGemmaS8204
I think it depends on how any opinions you want also, a lot of people say too many are too much but then each to there own as I planned to only take my mom and mil 2 be but then my sister wants to come and we are close then I'm only having 1 other big bridesmaid so I think I'll end up taking all 4 haha, I think whatever feels right to you but don't worry they are playing a big part of your day anyway so if you want just you and your mom I'm sure they'll understand xx
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I took my mum first and then when I thought I had found my dress I took one of my bridesmaids with me. My other bridesmaid came to my first fitting along with my nan (she had two boys so had never experienced this). I found it better having them see it as it meant they could help me work out what jewellery to get (I forgot to put it on on the actual wedding day though!) and my veil and hair style. It was nice to have them see it, it was like a secret between just the five of us! But do what you want to, it's your wedding and your dress :) xxx
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Thanks everyone, thanks for your comments. I am pretty sure I want it to be just me and my mum. I might show my bms a picture so they all get to see it, but then save the 'real' moment for when we get ready together on the day :)
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
Thats ok Flossie, there is no right or wrong answer you have to go with your heart. x
CommentAuthorJennK
Yes absolutely go with whatever you feel is best for you :)
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I went shopping with my mum and godmother initially, just to get some ideas. Then continued on my own as I found that easier, and shared photos of potential dresses with my bridesmaids on a Facebook group to get opinions. Ultimately I made the decision alone, and my two MOHs saw the dress when we went for first fittings, as we had them fitted at the same time.
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CommentAuthorSydnieH
I took my mam and my 2 sisters with me. They saw me try on dozens of dresses and will be coming with me to my dress fitting. I gave them the option but they weren't inclined. My youngest sister says she can't even remember what it looks like and so wants to come for the fitting. They are 2 of my bridesmaids.
CommentAuthorAprilS61
I think you should just take your mum.
Come to the time of fittings and you might decide to invite them to that, otherwise, just wait for the big day! Xx
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
When I went a few weeks ago I just took my mum and sister (BM) and the only other one I would maybe take is MOH because I have known her for almost 10 years and she is like a sister to me. My other BM is OH's sister and we are not really close so I wouldn't take her. If I were you I think I'd just take my mum, especially when you first go, maybe take BM's once you have decided just to show them x
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