Me & my partner are getting married next year. Now I'll tell you what's happened, I want my 3 closest friends to be maid of honour/ bridesmaids. I want the friend I've known the longest(16years+) she's like a sister to me to be my maid of honour, she knows this as I've already asked her but the other two to be my bridesmaids. My other 2 friends think that all 3of them are going to be bridesmaids, how do I tell them that I've chosen the other friend to be MOH? Without upsetting anyone?
CommentAuthorkittyh
i don't think you should need to worry about upsetting people. Im sure they will be honoured to be bridesmaids and you can't have all three of them as maid of honour they will know you can only pick one. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, just tell them they are bridesmaids and then just mention about your other friend being MOH in passing. My sister is my MOH and i have 3 other bridesmaids, and I think maybe one or two of them may have thought I might have picked them but they never mentioned it to me and I don't really make too much of a differentiation between my MOH and the BMs...
CommentAuthorAprilS61
Well you said yourself all 3 are bridesmaids and your just having your best friend as MOH. It's not like you are picking MOH and saying they can't be a BM. They will probably expect it if you've been friends with her for 16years I would have thought?
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CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
I'm sure they will understand :) I am an only child but H2B has siblings and this has resulted in him having 6 nieces and nephews which we want included in the day due to this and costs I knew we couldn't afford 2 extra bridesmaids so I choose one of my best mates to be MOH and one an ushermaid so she does the same jobs as usher but helps with the MOH duties like hen do etc I was worried about asking one and upsetting the other but once I did they were fine about it and actually were very happy and excited I think it was a worry in the mind but not an actual issue if that makes sense :)
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CommentAuthorVelcro
i think you are overthinking it, i dont think they will mind one bit xxx
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i dont think they will be bothered, bridesmaid/maid of honour, your friend will probably help you the most anyway, but having 2 others there just like her will be great too! they wont care what title, they will be wearing the same so its not that different, i wouldnt worry yourself about it, you dont need to make a point of mentioning it, just let it be x
CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
I don't think they will be upset, they will all probably be happy that they get to be part of your special day. I have chosen my best friend as MOH instead of my sister and that was taken fine by my sister, she is just happy that she gets to be a bridesmaid. I wouldn't worry about it, i'm sure once they start bridesmaids duties they will be too excited to care :) x
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CommentAuthorclairenina
You don't even need to mention it. It's an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid, they have this to look forward to
