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if its what you both want then go for it! x

all we'd have to do is book a holiday and cancel all the stuff weve booked lol
OH is working tonight and left me to look up places to go xx

I know a bride who is having a garden party.. She's doing it vintage theme with bunting, sandwiches and cakes! sounds so lovely!!

Go for it; if it is what you both want! :)

Good luck Hunni xx

we're having the big after party but instead of having a wedding list as we'll have lived together for a couple of years by then, we're going to put in a nice little poem asking for money to help with our honeymoon. Would you be able to do this? or have you already sent out a wedding list? xx

there has to be some give and take with both of you, sit down and talk about how much it means to you, if not powers of seduction work wonders lol

Is there a specific party he's worried about
I'm worried about the first dance but think we will just try and laugh it off

:-(
To me it is about the vows and being together yes but I couldn't give up my big reception where I can relax and celebrate with everyone

Can you not combine the two and have a massive garden party somewhere instead like a beautiful village hall with loads of outside space so that way you can have it inside and out and have all the big hooha in the evening as well as the garden party? Bring in caterers too and save money that way..maybe a bbq?
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Oooh no, why's he being so rubbish?!

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Well if he "cba" then just do whatever you like, at least that way he can't say you haven't tried to involve him. He's not being very fair by being unresponsive when you're offering him a compromise. I'm sure if you carry on your way and don't check with him he'll soon come and ask what's going on and try to be involved.

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Yh if he cba then do what you want he's had his opportunity for input :-)

Well he didn't even write out my birthday card, he did the one off the kids n left mine, I've not seen him today as he started work before I woke up
He's been like this before and he was talking to a little t4rt he works with! Obviously wasn't happy but I thought we got over it
But he's like this again and she's his top friend on a picture chat app going by the name snap chat
I'm fuming
He'll be lucky if he has a head when he walks through the door later
He can't have the single life and family at the same time x

Ooooh nnnoooooo doesn't sound good hun. Happy Birthday. Think you need to have a real heart to heart with him, be frank, lay your cards on the table and tell him you expect him to do the same. Cracks need exposing properly before they can be filled otherwise they keep reappearing. This is your future husband hun, you need to be as open and honest as possible. Hope you get it sorted and hope you can enjoy the rest of your birthday xxx

Oh dear katie, it deosnt sound like things are going well. you really need to have it out with him, his attitude stinks :/ Id be havign words about that girl. Boot on the other foot im sure he'd think there was something seedy goign on if some chap was the top of your snap chat thing. I dont use it myself, tbh, im abit behind on the times, but i beleive the general idea behind it is someone sends a pic and you see it for X seconds then its gone forever? There's only one conclusion id be drawing from that, if im honest :/

going back to the wedding thing, he HAS to compromise. just because he does/doesnt want something doesnt mean it should be set in stone as equally you DO want XY or Z, though i do think you have some other issues to iron out before tackling the wedding. though it would be good to bring up just to tell him how unbelievably selfish he is being over it.

It is dodgy I've told him to delete them or the app itself and he goes "they're just work mates" yeah but he doesn't need to speak to them outside of work they arnt actually mates they're just people he works with but he doesn't get it xx

He seen his ar$e when a make friend bought me a drink on a night out but he's fine to do this
I'm upset that we're cancelling but the same time I'm glad because I don't want to marry someone who thinks this is acceptable when it's not xx

Does he talk to other people on snapchat or just her? I've heard it is an addictive app so could possibly be innocent but I still don't like the sounds of it xxx

Snap chat doesn't go on top friends... Its the person who snapchaps people the most. I wouldnt jump to conclusions and assume things. x

It's not innocent
He's been caught deleting texts off her previously
I've seen his snap history it's all him n her all the way down it!
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Ahhh sorry to hear this you seemed really happy earlier on the abroad wedding
Hope you get it sorted

I'm sorry your dealing with this atm :(
And tbh whether he gets it or not, what he should be getting is how it's making you feel! It maybe innocent it maybe not, but if he really cared for you he wouldn't want to make you feel like this so would stop it regardless!
My OH had this one tramp constantly flirting with him via Skype, and I mean full on flirting, trying to get him to leave me and the kids to be with her etc! They had been friends for years through a pc game, and it was all onesided, he used to tell me about it anytime she tried anything on and laugh about it. But once I told him I didn't want him talking to her and the reasons why, the word tramp was enough lol!, he told her to f off and blocked her!
Your OH should be doing something along the same lines if he loves you!
Hope you get it all sorted out soon <3

Sorry to hear your having a hard time x