We are trying to do our wedding on a budget and involve people where we can to help with various things. One of my bridesmaid's is an excellent cake maker and we thinking of asking her if she would make our wedding cake for us which we would really love as a wedding present? I've got a sort idea what I would like.
Is this cheeky and asking too much or should I really pay her?
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CommentAuthorBex89
I think you could ask - she is one of your bridesmaids after all so much know that you are trying to keep to a budget.
If not, store bought cakes that you then decorate yourself could be the answer - a friend of mine did that last year!!
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CommentAuthorBethanyS
There is no harm in trying! I think it would be a great idea myself if she would be happy to do it. x
CommentAuthorShowgirl
I would ask her and offer to pay. She'll probably say not to worry about the money and that she's happy to do it as a wedding gift.
CommentAuthorCh4lky
You don't know if you don't ask x
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Just say I'd love you to make our cake but we are on a tight budget how much would it cost? She may say she will do it as a gift to you or she may even just ask for money for the ingredients ,worth a try,if she says a price that's out of your budget be honest and say you can't afford it and look towards a different option x
CommentAuthorSusie
I agree with Victoria B, that is the most diplomatic way of doing it! Good luck!
CommentAuthorkatielea100
My bridesmaid/brothers girlfriend offered to make my cake for me so she is :) maybe don't directly ask her but bring it up in convo n see if she offers xx
CommentAuthorLauraK7
I would ask and offer to pay at least for ingredients but as said she will prob say not to pay her
CommentAuthorLauraF89
I think there is no harm in asking but obviously depending on what you want (eg. big and fancy) it might be best to offer to pay for ingredients and just see what she says then. If you don't ask you don't get. I wouldn't say to her "Would please do our cake as a wedding present" as she may not be getting you one so cant assume that she is, i know she's a bridesmaid so will probably get you a gift but maybe word it differently? Someone has recently said to us "Are we still doing them a cake as a wedding present" as my mum is cake maker and i really wasn't impressed as i had just mentioned my mum did cakes, they assumed i was offering to pay for my mum to do the cake (It would be cut price anyway so just ingredients and money for time but still). It annoyed me more because they also assumed they were getting a present. I'm not in anyway stingy but i don't think it's very polite to ask for a present.
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CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i asked my auntie to make my cake and she said she will do is as part of our present we just need to buy the ingredients. we are having a 5 tier cake so i have given her £200 for ingredients, icing, boards, boxes, icing for flowers etc but she said it wont cost that much and she itemises everything that she buys and will give us the rest of the money back that she doesnt need. takes a long time to make a cake and a lot of effort goes in - my auntie always says that she finds out how much the ingredients cost and then doubles it for her time taken - so consider this when asking someone to make your cake - ask her how much it would cost and mention that you have a small budget. she may put her time in for free if your lucky but you should offer to pay for ingredients x
CommentAuthorMarrying.Ryan
Yea, ask her! She can only say no or offer you a mate-rate instead. My Grandma is making ours for us :)
CommentAuthorVelcro
Tbh, I think asking as a 'wedding present' and going in at that angle is a bit cheeky and could put her on the spot. I'd ask her if she's willing to make it and tell her you are on a budget - can she help? If she offered to do it for free, then that's a bonus. :)
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I agree with others who wouldn't ask to have it as a wedding present, just ask if she'll do it and how much, if she wants to do it as a present then she will offer, if not she may offer mates rates.
You could always ask for an un-iced cake if money is really an issue, they can look really stunning but at a fraction of the cost of an iced one.
We've asked a friend to make ours, she's pricing it up for us, I wouldn't want her to do it for free as I know how much time and effort goes into making them.
