What is your opinion on letting your h2b go to strip clubs on there stag do? My h2b keeps saying he is going to, but im not sure if he is or just doing it to pee me off! I dont know if im being over jealous or anything but am i allowed to say he isnt allowed to go, i know its meant to be the last night of freedom and all that, but doesnt mean he can get a lap dance of some other woman does it? I mean when he drinks he doesnt remember anything, so even if he did he wouldnt be able to tell me! Am i being too over the top with this?
CommentAuthorkimi1987
I expected h2b to go to one on his. I even told him where they were lol. He didn't go to one tho sa my brother.kicked off.with every bloke in a night club so they all came home early
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I'd be furious with mine if he went to one... I think it's really disrespectful to me for him to go and get googley eyed over some much thinner much sexier girl than me.. Plus I think the whole 'Last night of freedom' is absolute bull.. If they need a last night of freedom, they shouldn't be getting married in the first place... Lol.. Anyway, my H2B thinks they're a load of crap as well, so, if we can afford it, we'll be having a joint hens vs stags day paintballing or something xxx
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
Lol! My h2b would love that!!!! Unfortunately i hate paintballing aha! I was thinking about going to alton towers/Drayton Manor for the day then going to some clubs, but my h2b thinks that if not everyone can be involved we shouldnt do it (his mother doesnt like theme parks, and his sister is only 17 so cant go clubbing), so i was just like forget it, too much hassle!
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Can't you have a theme park day/clubbing night for the rollercoaster drunken people and a nice grown up (boring lol) meal for the non rollercoaster clubbing goers ? I never thought of an Alton Towers day for our HvS !!! Seriously considering that now !!! I looooove Alton Towers ! Gutted we can't go this year :-( You're never ever going to find an activity absolutely everyone would enjoy so I'd tell H2B that HE needs to think of the tame joint thing and YOU'll think of the fun joint one :-) xxx
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Lol, that would work but ive already told him i dont wanna do anything now, so hes going out with his family/friends, and im doing nothing because i cant please everyone! Lol can still have the money and buy me something :P
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Change your mind then ! You're allowed :-) You're right, you can't please everyone, but guess what ! It's not their hen/stag do ! If they don't like it, don't come :-) Have what you want xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
My opinion on this is as look as he is not touching all is fine! After all, its me he will be coming home to and marrying!
If I found out that there had been some form of lap dance I would not be too happy.
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CommentAuthormym72
Trust me Emma, if they did try and touch I doubt they'd be much left of them lol. You should see the size of the bouncers in strip clubs lol.
I was curious so decided to go along to one with my hubby before we got married (he'd done all that years ago with his mates). I even paid for a dance (which cost me double because I went in with him lol). Guys can look, drool but definitely not touch!! To be honest I think the poor girl there was more embarrassed than us, especially as I'd come along as well lol.
I don't think it's disrespectful in any way - just lads letting their hair down. And the girls tend to be normal people wanting to make a bit extra cash (one I spoke to was a student and another worked for a building firm but wanted extra money).
In the end my husband didn't have a stag night - mainly because it was all the others that wanted to go to a strip club. But he wasn't that bothered about it, as it's quite old news when you can have a good night out eating/drinking instead.
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
That is true haha!!
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CommentAuthorsarah
I'd have no problem with it, but my only rules are no drugs and no hookers/escorts
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I would let mine go. It's a bit of fun but also I trust him. He would be there looking and drinking and then come home and chances are I would get lucky ( if he was still sober). My sister and her friends (male and female) go to strip clubs 4 or 5 times a year. They have a great time. I would be peed off if he said I couldn't go see male strippers although to be honest men with huge muscles jsut don't do it for me although I am tempted to get a buff butler for mine to serve drinks in the house while we get ready.
Georgi, I sent you a private mail about paintballing stuff get back to me and let me know xx
CommentAuthorAna40
I would let him go hun. Its just a bit of fun, with looking but no touching. It doesnt sound like it will be a regular occurrence. X
CommentAuthordisneylove
My h2b says he don't want to have a stripper or go strip club he just wants a quiet night with meal and some drinks but I said he should have 1 as right of passage plus trust him and I know nothing will happen it just a bit of fun for the lads plus my dad says he won't be havin any choice as far as he concerned lmao
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I hate strip clubs, h2b knows how I feel about them yet he still went to one on his stag last weekend which I'm not happy about at all, in fact I'm majorly narked! H2b says he doesn't like them and just goes along with his mates who all then clubbed together and bought him a dance. He did apologise to me but they all see it as the thing you have to do on your stag.
At the end of the day, I trust him and know he wouldn't do anything but I just hate these clubs and the thought of some practically naked girl all over my man! I just find it disrespectful, not just to me but to all h2b mate's wives and girlfriends!
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CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
i agree with indreamland xx
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Thanks hun, it's a topic that gets me rather emotional because I have such strong feelings about them but I accept that men see it as a novelty that must happen on a stag no matter what x
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I hate strip/lap dancing clubs too and I'd be disappointed if I found out h2b had been in one on his stag do, I also think they shouldn't call it a last night of freedom because its a celebration of them getting married not a night to act like an idiot and try to use the 'last night of freedom ' speech as an excuse for any behaviour they might do that I don't condone normally! I just think as well for the money it costs they could do something a lot more interesting....lap dances cost a fortune, drinks cost a bomb in those places plus the actual getting in fee to begin with ..... And ppl will say that nothing happens on the stag do but sometimes it does....three of my good friends marriages ended after something got slipped by someone on the stag do about what the groom had got up to...this coming from brides that completely trusted their husbands,and no I'm not saying u can tar everyone with the same brush but I think if u can be careful and not have temptation in their eyesight then it helps!
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CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
i agree indreamland Matt knows my feelings regarding this and I like you have strong feelings regarding this so wouldnt be happy at all if he went to a strip club xx
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CommentAuthorOWB
I really don't have an strong feeling about strip clubs. They're not all full of slim and stunning 21 years olds like some women seem to think, and even if they were, they show off nothing more than you see on the average beach.
My h2b went to one on his stag and said he had a couple of dances, he said it was obviously nice, but at the same time awkward, it certainly wasn't a turn on.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
What I don't understand is that H2B's mates, well 95% of them are married or in a long term relationship, all have kids (the non-single ones).
So I don't understand why they thought H2B would want or enjoy a dance knowing full well how happy we are and how in love we both are with each other.
So many have said they can see that I am good for him and how he's changed (happier etc.) since we got together ...............so why would he want or enjoy a dance from some half naked stranger?
I know him well enough to know that he's never cheat on me or do something stupid to put our relationship at risk but I really do hate the idea of another woman all over my man. That is not just in strip clubs either. Even is H2B was out with his mates in the pub and another girl made a move on him I would flip!
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CommentAuthorOWB
There are girlfriends of some of h2b's stags that don't know they went to a strip club. I'm dreading it coming out at the wedding, I can just imagine the strop that a couple of the girls will throw!
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CommentAuthorwelf
mine doesnt like strip clubs or strippers, but i think they are disgusting places and i would not be happy if my other half ended up in one, at the end of the day, if he needs to get his rocks off by ogling another lady, then im clearly not the one for him, and i would end our relationship, i personally know 2 strippers that would take extra money for sex and openly admitted it, so i think the thought of the risk of that is too much and i wouldnt be able to trust him again, he knows the rules lol and he completley understands....
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I think the fact H2B is honest with me about going to one and his mates clubbing together to buy him a dance shows me that he won't lie and I can trust him not to actually do anything apart from just sit there whilst she does her dance. I really do hate the thought of someone else doing something like that for him though.
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Totes agree!
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CommentAuthornadia13
Ive no problem wiv strip clubs... My husband had 3 stag do's one was away but didn't go in a strip club only coz they couldn't find one, the other at home which was planned 2 end up in a strip club and I paid 4 his first lap dance the 3rd was just 2 a casino wiv his best man, grooms men & my bro who gave me away!! And he has been 2 a many strip clubs in the past on other stag do's and no doubt will again!! He has 2 rules, he can look all he wants but not touch or be touched lol Like others say these girls r only human and just making a living.
CommentAuthorAntonia9
I don't mind strip clubs either, in fact I ended up in one for my hen do and h2b didn't. Nevertheless he has been to strip clubs on nights out with the lads. A lot of the time guys go because those places stay open longer than normal clubs but drinks are more expensive so don't stay lol As long as my man doesn't touch, and the stripper doesn't try any extras then I'm fine with it.
Mind you if the stripper did try it on then I would drag her out of the club by her hair lol ;)
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CommentAuthordizzy_sarah
My H2B is going on his stag in 4 weeks and will be visiting a strip club...at the end of the day if you trust them then it shouldnt be a problem! My other half isnt fussed either way...hes going cause its traditional for a stag do! Im going to a strip show to compensate so its all good! :D
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Strip clubs don't bother me.
H'es been to Prague twice with a friend, and they went to strip clubs both times. I know he won't do anything I wouldn't be happy with, so it just isn't an issue.
No idea what he's doing for his stag, though I suspect it's not actually that likely to involve strip clubs; I think the plan is just to go abroad and get wasted for 3 days lol
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I don't think a strip club is traditional for stag dos... I think men use it as an excuse to go in one! There's loads of other things nowadays they can do now more groups are doing activities!
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CommentAuthorLauraM9144
i had horrid experience of this when my o/h went to his team night for the football team he had told me there were strippers and i thought ah well i trust you its only looking but ohhh how wrong i was it turned it involved chocolate sauce and one of the girls even squatted naked over his face and told him what she wanted him to do thankfully he was just as shocked as me and he knows in no uncertain terms he will NEVER be going again lol and if i found out he did then there would be no wedding. i know it may sound alittle extreme and not all places are like that but i just think its wrong if i found him in a club in town with some girl dancing all round him i would flip so it cant see its any different if hes paid for it!
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
Lol! Im glad im not the only one who feels this way!! I get this sick feeling in my belly when i think about it! The fact is i see it as cheating, i dont see why he should drool over another girl, makes me feel like crap, he knows how insecure i am and all this but, still insists hes going! We had his best man over last night, and he was saying well we can leave him outside the club. But if i found out he actually did go to one i would go on a rant, (even on my wedding day, id give him the silent treatment and he knows this). Just makes me so mad!!!!
CommentAuthormillz090
I left it too the boys to decide.... if i say No then i think his mates will do it on purpose to pee me off as a joke. I would hope his mates would listen to want he wanted and if he said No then they wouldn't go but im not one to dictate to H2B what he does so completly his choice. I suggest you mention to him your not happy and then leave it.... if you go on then the boys may do it as a joke and hope your H2B respects your wishes enough to say no xxx
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
I have said no, and told him if he does, i wont speak to him for at least a week! Lol, when i told his best man no stip clubs he laughed and said well leave him outside! I was like D: ... Just winds me up that they dont care how i feel!
CommentAuthorVelcro
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i think 'forbidding' it is just asking for trouble, now you have said that to the best man, you will only have pushed them into one in my opionion. Do you not worry that he will be ridiculed at being told what to do? I'd never put tom in that position, it would humiliate him going to his friends behind his back and telling them what to do.
It doesn't seem like something he ever really does so shouldnt really be a concern. It's harmless enough when its a group of lads out for a stag do/birthday/whatever. You would have helped your cause more, by not saying anything, or at least only saying to H2B, Im not happy about it, but I don't mind. or something.
Lets be honest, really, none of us are really thrilled by the idea of our fellas going out and looking at semi naked women and getting lap dances, at least in this environemt though, the women there they can't touch.
Laura, in your case, I think I would have to swallow my fury as I know my bloke wouldn't act on it - i think any man that did (who's in a relationship anyway) would be a complete idiot to
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CommentAuthorLauraM9144
i know thankfully he was totally shocked he expected the same as me jsut some girl dancing round. he is a quiet man who gets easily embaressed and had only gone as it was the teams event and he felt he should. We have had our issues and in early years when i was pregnant he cheated on me with my sister but it was my choice to stay with him and try and work things out (when i say cheated it wasnt physical they exchanged dirty pictures which hurt me like hell but if it was physical i wouldnt have gotten over it i call it cheating as im my opinion and action with another person that causes that much pain is cheating ). it does mean that sometimes im alittle over the top with my feelings towards this type of thing but in my eyes i have to be very honest about how i feel i personally think its wrong i dont like it and find it sleazy if i didnt tell him how i feel then i couldnt say anything if i found him in those situations therefore im always honest he knows how i feel about it now so if he goes he knows he is making a choice and if its the wrong one i will leave .
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
Fair enough not saying anything to his best man, but Ian wouldn't do something that he wouldn't want to do, if everyone was making him he'd say no. Im just really hoping they are winding me up and not being serious. when ian drinks he remembers nothing! Thats what worries me :S
CommentAuthormillz090
At the end of the day it is his stag do and not yours so he can do what he wants to do and the boys will, the more you moan or mention it the more likely they will do it !! However i think the boys push each other on and wind up the situation so i wouldnt worry too much as its all talk! xxx
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CommentAuthorRachaelC80
My H2B went to Amsterdam where drugs and prostitution are legal!!!! It didn't bother me in the slightest as I trust him and he loves me!!!
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CommentAuthorDanni13
I wouldnt mind, i actually expect it to be honest! Shes not interested in him anyway, shes doing it for money! And also, if you wanted a male stripper at yours or butlers in the buff or something, you know that it would be hilarious and not at all seedy, so maybe give him some credit, sure its the same for him? xx
CommentAuthorK0210P
I think I may be slightly lucky as my H2B doesn't find this appealing and if his friends have gone to one during a night out he has either come home or gone to another bar with some other pals and met up with them after, so I would be surprised if it turns out he does go to one.
I think as much as I'd like to say it wouldn't bother me and that I know he would be coming home and marrying me, it probably would. Fair enough if they go and just have a look, but if any lap dancing was involved I'd be having word x
CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
See a trip to Amsterdam where drugs and prostitution are legal wouldn't bother me because ikno he wouldnt cheat on me. Its just the whole looking and getting lap dances of other women that does (as they wouldn't see it as cheating). I think that because its his stag do hes marrying me so why should he be looking at other women... Just a bit jealous i think aha.
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
My h2b got back from his stag yesterday and they went to a strip club, I wasn't bothered he doesn't like chicks who have fake tan/boobs/hair etc so they wouldn't be his type plus he's incredibly loyal. I got one of the lads to give him a card from me with £50 the message read "spend this on strippers and/or booze but absolutely no hookers!". He phoned me at midnight saturday to tell me that he was just leaving the strip club as the drinks were too pricey, a lap dancer had propositioned him to take her home and do all sorts to her and his bum was sore. We chatted til he got back to his bro in laws flat then he fell asleep. Yesterday when he got home he showed me his sore bum and I was furious!!! He has big angry purple and red bruises all over his bum cheeks and hips because his mates clubbed in £120 for him to have a bondage dance and the girls were hitting him with a belt, the DJ said he didn't seem to be in pain so they did it with the buckle side and my man being a "bloke" didn't stop them. He then told me more about this lap dancer and apparently as the stag he got a free dance (she knew he was a stag) later on she asked him if he would take her home and do bad things with her. He did point out that the only reason he got the free dance was because he was getting married so why was she even asking, to which she smirked and told him I was a lucky girl as not all men are as good as him!!!! I wanted to email the club and complain on both counts because they make out they are a really classy joint but it's not classy to have skanks for dancers. I'm still stewing over it. Would I stop him going to strip clubs in the future? No, I still trust him and he didn't have to tell me about it. Does he ever want to go to one again? No way, he would take me dancing to PJ & duncan over them any day lol!
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CommentAuthormillz090
Aw Shirley, what a good man!
I think a man needs to experience a strip club once so know its not all its cracked up to me and then they wont be interested again.... Ashleigh if you stop him then one day he will go anyway as be intrigued and you wont be told. If your man is loyal and you trust him then it is only a bit of harmless fun, like Shirley's man did, said No and all was fine in the end. I would give my H2B money too go as i trust him 100% and know he would have a laugh but he wouldn't go any further so whats the harm?!
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
From shirleys post, i dont feel so bad. I do trust him, i just dont want women all over my man if you get what i mean.
CommentAuthormillz090
No one does honey, the idea revolts me but actually the girls are just doing a job, they dont fancy then men they just get paid and thats all they care about. But your man has chosen to marry you and im sure he only has eyes for you and its just a few hours for some fun so dont worry too much xxx
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
I suppose so, its just ahhh! lmao. I dont feel too bad about it now everyone has posted their opinions. But if he mentions it again, im gonna tell him to do what he wants, but im not gonna be over the moon about it lol.
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CommentAuthormillz090
I think thats all you can do honey, tell him your opinion and hope he honours it but if he goes anyway then dont take it too heart as often encouraged by the others and not his choice xxx
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CommentAuthormym72
Millz - I don't think it's just men that need to experience a strip club once. A lot of women have a blinkered vision of strip clubs, that they're seedy and the dancers are completely fake with their b00bs, tan etc. I can honestly say this isn't the case and tbh they're not as bad as everyone thinks
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Im not really fussed by strip clubs.
My h2b is off to poland for his stag do and theyve paid to get into a strip club, and i have no doubt they'll all pay for him to have a private dance which doesnt really faze me in the slightest. Way i see it its just harmless fun & just a paid service at the end of the day, would be a completely different story if some random girl started grinding all over him in a club of course lol
