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    • b2bnicola
      CommentAuthorb2bnicola
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    Hi all

    So i had my hen do on the weekend just gone and it was going brilliantly.... bar one thing!!!! my MIL!

    She sat for the whole coach ride down there just staring out the window and ignoring everyone... then cried to my mums friends (who she didnt know) as she was loosing her son to me... so that was a good start.

    Then I hear from the other girls that shes done none stop moaning to them about being there the whole weekend and how im not including her in everything. Bearing in mind there was 12 of us in total and i think i did pretty well to share my time out between people.

    Then on the last night it all came to a head.... her phone froze on her and she couldnt get it to work so she gave me it to fix (she was drunk at this point) and on her screen was a lovely text that she was in the middle of sending her mum it read

    "I hate it here, and i hate her why shes got to marry my son i dont know. shes just a fat ugly fin ahole who thinks shes better than everyone and I cant wait to....." then thats where the message end

    Well obv i just didnt know what to do... so i just gave her phone back to her said thanks for the comments and went to bed ruining my night.

    I know h2bs side has hated me in the past mainly down to the fact that they hate that weve got stuff that they haven't but not to this extent!!!! how can she be so nasty?

    and to top it all off i work with her and she is being so lovely to me at work and i just want to punch her in the face!

    its devastated me really and i dont know what to do.

    if i confront her she'll have an excuse to not come to the wedding, then the whole family will follow suit which will hurt my h2b as even tho he knows what theyre like theyre still his family and i cudnt do that to him as hes had a hard enuff time with them.

    :(

    19 days to go and i cant think of anything worse than knowing that theyre going to be there making comments behind me back!

    x

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    • Ana40
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    How awful. Have you spoken to your h2b about what was said. X

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    • b2bnicola
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    Yeah I was debating whether or not too but it ended up just coming out (as i get a bit emotional) and he was just gobsmacked. Couldnt believe it. He was ready to go and confront her about it all but for the reasons above i downplayed it to him and begged him not to say anything so that our wedding wont be ruined by family feuds!

    x

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    • kittyh
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    wow! she sounds totally horrible! i mean i could say oh it was probably the drink, its her own insecurities, mother's and their sons blah blah blah but really there is no excuse and its unforgivable. maybe she meant it, maybe she didn't...that being said, its your OH's mother and if its going to ruin his day by her and the rest of the family not being there then this close to the wedding maybe you have to just let it go sadly enough. I wouldn't advise confronting her before the wedding if its going to upset you and stress you out as I am sure you have lots to sort out between now and then this is the last thing you need. i wouldn't let her off the hook completely though! :( xx
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    • kittyh
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    ps. i just had a quick peek at your profile pic and you aren't fat OR ugly so shes clearly mental as well as mean! xx
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    • Sazzell23
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    Honey do you really want this woman around you on your wedding day knowing her true intentions towards you?? I remember what happened at your engagement party and other posts about her. I really feel worried for you that she will do something on your big day when drunk. You need to be strong and sort it now xxx
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    • kittyh
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    oh dear...i take it this isn't a one off thing then? xx
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    • b2bnicola
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    Nope its not hun, its been going on for a few years now. I just thought (stupidly) that theyd changed their minds about me and all was okay but obv its just been continuing but behind my back!
    Shes actually not drinking at our wedding as shes driving back home to "see to the dogs" in between the day time and evening reception but i have a feeling she may not come back for the evening do.
    Fingers crossed anyways! ha!

    I guess it just kind of devastated me reading something like that about me... was like a big kick to my gut!

    I cant understand how they think i think im better than them. I never go on about money or if me and h2b buy nething we dont tell them, I always make an effort with them even tho i know how they feel about me. i always do whatever they ask of me. Just dont get it!

    x

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    • Showgirl
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    Personally I would leave it to OH as he's the one who will be caught in the middle if there's any fall out so its up to him if he thinks it can all be resolved before the big day or if he's willing to risk his family not being there etc.
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    • b2bnicola
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    sazzell if i bring it up now theres no way that she'll come to wedding which would stop.... his nan and bf.... his step dad who is also his best man... and his sister and kids and theyre like the ONLY family of his thats coming. I would feel so bad if I was the one to make them not come. Just kinda wanted to rant x

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    • Sazzell23
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    She seems like a bully to me and whatever you do will never be good enough for her.
    So let go of the situation with her, let go of trying to be the person you think she wants you to be. Be yourself. Know that you have done nothing to deserve her venom. If you can stop trying, let go and detach you will be happier xx
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    • kittyh
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    jealousy is a nasty and powerful thing and it can make people do some really horrible things...you just have to accept sometimes that its not your fault and there is nothing you can do to change the way they are - its their problem and not yours...whatever you do, don't let them spoil your day! and the best thing about it is that when you get married in a couple of weeks that will be your revenge, and everyday you make your marriage work is proving them wrong. horrible woman! xx
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    • CJGroove
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    I've just had a snoop through your pics and my, my, you are absolutely gorgeous! And WOW you have a fantastic figure; what in God's name is that nasty woman on about?
    Not that that is the point, even if you looked like Johnny Vegas in a wig, as if that matters? Your H2B clearly loves and adores you, she should be happy her son has fallen in love and is going to be happily married to a sweet girl.

    I'm glad you told your other half. I'm sorry that I can't offer anything but support and a kind word, I wish I could do something more xxx
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    • b2bnicola
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    Thanks girls. You're all right.... by marrying her son im doing the one thing so obv doesnt want to happen so its the ultimate revenge in a way. (and obv im marrying for love lol)

    I think ur right sazzell its about time i stop trying. im quite comfortable with who i am and i shouldnt be questionin that.

    Once married and back from honeymoon im just going to stop being a part of their lives. I'm not going to stop h2b going to see them etc if thats what he wants to do but im just not going to bother myself! No doubt they'll all up their niceness to try and outdo my family at the wedding with our guests.... so there shudnt be any probs on that nasty front x

    Happily Married! :) xxx


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    • b2bnicola
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    And thanks CJGroove your very sweet and u did make me laugh with jonny vegas thing x

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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
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    Well said Kitty. It's your day hun (and H2B's obviously!) Don't let a nasty, jealous, spiteful mofo ruin it for you xxx
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    • Velcro
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    aw hun, im having a hard time with the inlaws at the moment, mil seems to think the whole day is about her, and ive been called selfish for apparently doing what i want... not sure what planet these people come from sometimes!!!

    She'd never ever be that down right nasty to me though...i dont even know what id do if i saw a text like that, or how h2b would react....its just shocking!!! do you not think you need to confront her about it together, so its not hangng over your head on the day or anything? or do you just want to try to forget about it? horrible nasty woman

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    • Becky1608
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    Ummmm fat and ugly? Tell her to go get her eyes tested!! It sounds like jealousy to me. She doesn't seem to like the fact that her son is grown up and has a life away from her. Chin up hun. At the end of the day she'll end up driving you both away with comments like that. Your H2B will prob be more aware of any nasty comments made in the future now that he knows what was said at the hen.
    She sounds like a complete nightmare!! Xxx

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    • AmyK
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    Sounds like she's the kind of person where no-one will be good enough for her little boy. So its not you, the problem is all hers.
    Is he a mummy's boy? If so, he needs to grow a set and put her straight!!




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    • SofiaF
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    "She seems like a bully to me and whatever you do will never be good enough for her.
    So let go of the situation with her, let go of trying to be the person you think she wants you to be. Be yourself. Know that you have done nothing to deserve her venom. If you can stop trying, let go and detach you will be happier xx "

    This.
    In a way it's nice that H2B is outraged and wanted to confront his mother shows that he's got your back!
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    • MrsThomson2B
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    I would keep it sweet until after the wedding so that h2b isnt hurt by a family fied before the day and then let rip when you get back from your honey moon. She sounds like a right cow to be honest and if my mil was to talk to me like that or about me like that to any of my friends or family i would knock everyone of her teeth out her head xx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    i'd punch her! Lol why not........ ;) x

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    • almost a year wife!!
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    Sounds like no one will be good enough for her little boy... I'd've been sneaky though if id have had her phone and sent it to h2b and then seen what would've happened... In fact I'd've sent it to a fair few people!!!! Cheeky moo moo face... I wouldn't say anything physically to her face until after the day then I'd lynch her! And after that wouldn't make the effort with her at all x

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    • Velcro
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    oooh an accidental mass text... im gunna store that in the malicious part of my brain if i ever come across someone being that mean to me!

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    • b2bnicola
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    Lmao great minds girls... i actually did forward it to my mobile so ive got it still. Havent quite decided what to do with it yet like lol.

    I ended up breaking down to me dad last night about it all. As with me working with her its so hard as she is being soooo nice to my face i cant stand it. So i told my dad everything. He is LIVID to say the least. Esp since shes using her company mobile to say those things about me

    (to catch people up my dad is actually both of our bosses)

    Hes gonna keep his mouth closed until after the wedding too but god knows what he'll do wen am on me honeymoon. Ill be out the country tho with my mobile turned OFF!! HA!

    Im 100% not bringing it up before the wedding, but afterwards my god am I done with that side of the family. I just dont want to be near them for fear of them rubbin off on me or something!

    h2b isnt a mummys boy at all but i can tell all he wants is for her to be happy for him. she keeps bringing up his past to anyone who listens (he was homeless at one point, drinkin etc) and kinda focussing on that rather than how far hes come now. hes employed, has a house, a car, and is getting married to someone who loves him.... but noooooooooo 5 years ago bla bla bla

    Its really hard to be a witness to. Like today for instance he says to me that he wants a new pair of shoes (£12) for his stag do as the dog ruined his (fair enuff in my eyes) his mum actually said "God u think since uv got money now ur king of the world" he was like its a pair of shoes mam??? so strange honestly it baffles me

    x

    sorry waaaaaaaaaay longer rant than i intended there lol x

    Happily Married! :) xxx


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    • Elinor Claire
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    Ooh I love the fact that she works for your Dad. I would let him take care of it in that case, especially as she was using the company mobile. It sounds like she's pretty awful to everyone, and your H2B is probably better off keeping his distance from her too.

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    • Showgirl
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    Didn't realise you'd sent it to your mobile - I would have forwarded it on again to everyone at the hen do. In fact although you're now back I would still be tempted to send it to everyone saying 'Just found out this is what my FMIL really thinks about me...'
    Do you know who it was she was trying to send the message to in the first place?
 

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