Wedding Forum - What do i do??...

Hello Ladies, I know this is a safe place for me to say how i am feeling. My mum bought my dress, but rather than being excited I immediately burst into tears and i can honestly say that i can't imagine wearing the dress on the day. Why did i buy it?? if i'm honest i felt pressurised by the sales staff and my mum (who was with me). It was bought in a sale and we got a discount and i've told my mum that i'm not sure about the dress and she keeps saying that we can have it altered to suit what i want it to look like, but again i keep thinking, if it is the dress i shouldn't want to change it to suit me. I'm at my wits end can't stop thinking about it. I look at the pictures of it on line and can't imagine me in it at all. I rang the shop and i can't return it. I really don't know what to do. I just feel like i'd be wearing something my mum wants me to be in and not me. I keep thinking i could sell it but as my mum paid for it i don't want to upset her. I constantly feel like i'm pleasing other people and not myself, even my H2b.

Really sorry to hear you aren't happy with the dress. Maybe you should go on your own (or maybe with a friend) and try some other dresses on to work out what you do like and maybe that will help you pinpoint what it is you don't like about the dress you have. Then once you have got it all straight in your own mind you should sit down and speak to your mum and tell her that while you appreciate her efforts and paying for the dress you can't wear it. I'm sure if she is kind enough to buy your dress she will understand if you tell her exactly how you feel rather than right now where she probably thinks you are just having a wobble as lots of brides do - i have said a million times I am not sure about mine but I actually don't really mean it. Once she knows you are serious about how you feel maybe she will take pity on you and help you find a dress that you do love and maybe try and sell the other one. xx

Hey,
I do feel for you because your dress on the day is the one big thing as part of everything and you need to be happy in it!
You wedding is the one time in your life when you have the right to be as selfish and assertive as you wish. I have learned this the hard way, I'm too much of a softie in general and have had to learn to speak up and speak out with loved ones, who mean well but are being too pushy about OUR wedding day.
The only way to get round this is to sit your Mum down and bare all your feelings, letting her know that you're very appreciative of her buying you the dress but that it's not what you want. Sell it on the pre loved /gumtree/ bay of e and you can get something back for it towards a dress that you REALLY love.
I dig about the pleasing other people and not yourself, this is so darn frustrating for me at the moment especially with regards to my sister who is my MOH. Whilst she is very helpful, she has too many opinions of what I 'should' have on the day, and sort of takes a bit of a hump if I dont agree or go with what she says. I am dreading the hen business!!
Hope you get it all sorted out, remember you deserve to be in the dress you love and I'm sure after explaining to your Mum, she will understand. xx

You need to do what makes you happy, even if that means upsetting someone else. Like others have said try other dresses On and see how you feel in them compared to the one you have x

Could you explain to your mum exactly how you feel and then go try other dresses on and find your dream perfect dress. Then sell your one to put towards it. It's a big part of your wedding and you must feel happy and comfortable in what you'll be wearing when you marry your OH x