Hi All, I apologise if this is in the wrong place. I just wanted some opinions on a bit of a dilemma I'm having. I'm trying to sort out the top table currently. My OH's parents are divorced, his Dad has remarried but his Mother hasn't. Neither of them get along really and won't sit next to each other. His Mother and sister also have a bit of an issue with me and we don't see eye to eye most of the time. I can't work out what to do about the top table, I know if we put them all on the top table it will be awkward as hell. But we aren't having a best man or bridesmaids or anything so we don't have that option either. We have thought about a sweetheart table, this is so far the only way I've made the layout work but I'm not entirely sure how comfortable I'd be sitting separate from everyone else! I know we would both be happier sitting with friends but we don't want to be seen to be excluding the family, especially as my parents have been so supportive and have put a lot into this wedding. Gah! It's stressful. Any thoughts?
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
awkward family situations always make it difficult!!! Just have you 2 at the top table then, then have your families on seperate tables at the front. makes is more personal and saves on the stress! xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I agree, in situations like this go for a sweetheart table, then everyone sits elsewhere and saves arguments. We never had a traditional top table, between us we have 7 children so it was us and them in the top table rather than the traditional top table.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
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I originally wanted the traditional top table, but we had a sweetheart top table and honestly it was the best decision we could have made. Both of our parents are divorced and re-married/re-partnered... we didn't want them ALL at the top table otherwise it would have been huge, and we didn't want to take our parents away from their respective partners - although it was only for a couple of hours and they wouldn't have had a problem with whatever we decided. But we felt we'd be more comfortable knowing they were all sat with their partners and able to have the best time possible. It was so so lovely to have some time with OH on his own so we could catch up and reflect on the day so far together.
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
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I know the feeling, so much family drama here its crazy. My SIL did is this way, from left to right- Mother of Groom, Father of Bride, Bestman, Groom, Bride, Bridesmaid (moh), Father of Groom, Mother of Bride. Yes it's not traditional but she was happy and so was everyone else.
Thank you ladies! Think we will go for the sweetheart table then , hopefully prevent all the drama!
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
Could you have your dad sit next to his mum and your mum sit next to his dad? Sort of how Stephanie explained but without the best man and maid of honour if you aren't having them. That way you have parents on the top table but separate so there can be no arguments. Any partners could then be sat with other members of the family x
CommentAuthorShellbell
We are in a similar situation. H2b doesn't speak to his family and I only have my dad. We have the big top table and we aren't sure who to sit there. We were thinking of having just me h2b and the 3 kids. xx
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Yes I think sweetheart table sounds perfect
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
She'll, yes I think just having yiuOH and kids role be lovely xx
CommentAuthorShellbell
If we start adding the best man and what not it would only be me and my daughter on the top table and the rest would be men lol xx
Met 2004 lost contact after a few years
Met again 2013
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