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    • LouiseS89
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    Myself and my Fiancé are getting married on 23rd July next year.

    We know that the traditional way is for the bride to take the grooms surname but my Fiancé doesn't want me to have his surname as he doesn't want anything to do with that side of his family anymore therefore he wants to take on my surname.

    We were talking about it the other day and he said everyone he has spoken to thinks it is weird, I know we shouldn't care what other people think but I'm the type of person that does care, now we don't know what to do.

    Has anyone else been in this situation?

    Louise x
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    • VictoriaL46
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    I know quite a few people who have done this and its becoming increasingly popular. If thats what you want to do then fudge whatever anyone else thinks :)

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    • Irishbride2be
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    a wedding i was at the start of this month the groom took the brides surname purely because he wanted nothing to do with his dad including his surname and nobody thought it was weird at all. don't worry what anybody else thinks! it's a lovely idea
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    • InDreamland
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    I've changed the category of your thread for you. Please can you ensure you choose a category in the future.

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    • LouiseS89
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    I didn't know it was that common, I know I shouldn't care what other people think but I cant help it, ive always been like that lol.
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    • Glitterfairy
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    At the end of the day you can have whatever name you want,

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    • InDreamland
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    Take the name you want to. He can take yours. I had a thread on this last week.

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    • MrsEmmaP
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    I know a few people that have done this, my OH was actually thinking of taking my name as he has his ex stepdad's name who he wants nothing to do with, so he was thinking of going back to his birth name or taking mine. He is keeping his stepdad's now but he didn't think it was weird.

    My manager is getting married next year and her and her fiance are taking eachother's names. I think it is becoming quite normal now. Don't worry about what other people think do whatever makes you and your OH happy :) x

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    • Flossie
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    As long as you're both happy with whatever you decide to do then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks :)

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    • JennK
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    My friend who is a doctor double barreled her name with her hubby's (he did the same) as all her training and registration were in her maiden name, I think that's quite common in jobs like that.

    But otherwise, I am hearing more and more of alternatives to taking his name. Although I'm very excited to be losing mine ;)

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    • Glitterfairy
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    One of our consultants has her maiden name and even goes by Miss

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    • Velcro
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    i wish we had discussed the surname thing as im really resenting my new name. i just associate it with his horrible family and want my own back, i know he wouldnt be happy and its 'only a name' i suppose... bah.

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    • Glitterfairy
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    My name when I got married was my ex husband's so don't think hubby now would appreciate it haha

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    • InDreamland
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    I still use my maiden name for work but all official documents are in my married name.

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    • CarolH81
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    Cant wait to get rid of my surname! :) x
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    • MrsC2bee
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    I think its becoming more common now to do things differently to the 'traditional' way. Some people double barrel and if you want to do it your way then go for it :) I think its a lovely thing to do as its personal to you. X
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    • KayleighS46
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    We were going to double barrel both our names - my dad is worried his name will dye out lol! But after careful thought about it we've decided for me to take his surname. Double barrelled would be far too long for me and I'm happy to have his surname. But again I'm like you and seem old fashioned but there is nothing wrong with taking whoevers name you want too. Its got nothing to do with anyone else. xx

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    • RachaelB76
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    just pick whatever name you two want and dont worry about what anyone else thinks x




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    • lala "mod" bunni
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    Advice for a man getting married

    The custom of changing your name on getting married has traditionally applied to women only. However, you can use your marriage certificate as evidence of your change of name, in the same way that your wife can. All of our advice for women getting married applies equally to men.

    U.K. government bodies such as HM Passport Office and the DVLA treat married men and married women exactly the same. If you do decide to make a change to your surname, you are much more likely to encounter difficulty changing your records with other organisations who may be less prepared to recognise your change of name.

    To avoid any difficulties having your marriage certificate accepted by independent organisations (e.g. banks), it's a good idea to update your passport first. An updated passport is strong proof of your new name, and organisations are legally required to recognise your change of details under the Data Protection Act. If they refuse — complain!

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    • Louiseyweesey
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    A couple of our friends swapped surnames for the first year to see which one they preferred! Making their final decision on their first anniversary! Not sure how that works with passports etc but they have done it somehow :-) xxxx
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    • LouiseS89
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    Thanks for getting back to me everyone.

    I think were going with him taking my surname, he doesn't want me to have his surname and to be honest I don't want it either.

    Your all right I shouldn't care what other people think, at the end of the day its our choice, if they don't like it that's their problem :D xx
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    • Whovianbride
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    I'd fine. Ignore everyone else. Girl I know did this. Hey hubby took her name. Another girl I know was no about doing that as her hubby to be don't carefree for his last name

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