We are lucky to be able to give our guests a choice of 4 dishes per course for our wedding breakfast but we have informed all guests we need to choices back by the 1st Feb at the very latest (Well really it is the 15th Feb but they do not need to know this). The problem is none of my partner’s family or friends have issued their choices and he does not want to push them. But after having the choices for three weeks at least I am not happy at people’s lack of response...
My family and friends have given me their choices quickly. Most before they had even received their menus lol. We get married on the 30th March and all choices have to be in 6 weeks before the wedding. How do I get OH to motivate his lazy lot??
CommentAuthorsussie
tell them that if they dont reply before friday than they will be having X and then pick the most popular from the responces you have had back.
CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
tell him if he doesn't ask you Will choose for them and they can like it or lump it! dont mither but be clear with him you need him to collect peoples menus and then leave him to it.
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CommentAuthorVelcro
by telling him you will make the decision for them, and it will serve them right if they on't like what they are given
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CommentAuthorKimD7
oh if people do not give choices it will be the cheapest options lol... There will be lots of melon, chicken and apple pie going aorund at this rate lol
id tell them they arent getting fed. harsh but if they havent got the courtesy to reply why the hell should you feed them.
my family are awful at not replying and ive told them if i dont get a reply dont expect to have food at the wedding x x
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
Yeh just what the other ladies said! Just give them a nudge and say if you don't get anything then they will be chosen for xxx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I agree, tell him to push them for choices otherwise they get what they are given, like it or not.
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CommentAuthorJoanna
It's so easy to forget to reply to things sometimes so I'd just ring them up and ask them
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I must admit, I am TERRIBLE when it comes to RSVP-ing and giving menu choices :-(. Im normally a day or so before the deadline.
Also, often people don't read the whole invite, as nowadays people seem to put so much info on them that they'll look at the date and venue and not much else..there may be some wo don't even realise they need to give menu choices.
Could you ask h2bs mam to chase if h2b doesn't want to do it? Xx
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
Why not chase them yourself? They probably just forgot and will get back to you by the end of the day by text if you just prompt them. Don't be shy on these things...making their choices for them couldbe troublesome and at this point of time you dont need stress!
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
i will be chasing up 4 weeks before the due date and then 2 weeks etc etc. xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Why does h2b not want to hurry them up? What is his problem with that? All it would take is just a few phonecalls and the whole lot could be sorted out in one day. Anyway yeah call them yourself.
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
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Put your foot down hun!!
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
Just say if you don't get a reply you will be choosing for them x x
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I'm so glad I've not given a choice. We've chosen all popular dishes for each course and asked our guests to inform us of any food alergies or dietary requirements. If that information doesn't come in by the time we give the final numbers they'll be chomping on bar snacks until the buffet. I think that's fair enough for a freebie meal.
If I were you, I'd choose for them if they can't be bothered to give you the information themselves. If they moan on the day explain that with all the thousands of other things you had on in the lead up to the wedding you had to make many executive decisions.
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
This drove me insane both with RSVPs - we had our menu choices on the back so didnt have such an issue about menus. I sent everyone who hadnt responded a message saying please respong by X date (7 days time) whether you are attending or not. If I do not hear from you, I will assume you are not coming and will remove your name from the catering list. I got very quick replies then!
Unfortunately, I understand ur h2b doesnt want to push but if you don you may not have the time to amend the order etc.
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CommentAuthorclairenina
I see so many people having choices available for guests, but at our venue, we have to pick the same meals for everyone (obviously will the special exception). I would have liked my guests to have had 2 choices for each course :(
CommentAuthorGoldiepostie
we don't have a choice at our venue either. I was gutted about it at first, but actually, i'm over it now! We've picked courses that we think everyone will like, and if they don't, as long and he and H2B like it, then that's all that really matters!
It's not very common to give people a food option as it's more hassle for the venue!
xx
CommentAuthorbarbie86
clairenina: a lot of venues don't offer choices; some couples get around it by offering a non-vegetarian and vegetarian option for the starter and main, and extending it to all guests; but this restriction is pretty common.
We're very fortunate and ours has been amazing; we're able to give 2 choices each for the starter and dessert, and 4 for the main, so have most 'bases covered'. But I wouldn't feel badly that you can't, as this is the exception and not the rule.
Also, if someone starts getting fussy and requesting x meat with y side, I might just go all bridezilla on them lol
CommentAuthorclairenina
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Thanks :), I'm glad it's not uncommon, I would hate my guests to think our wedding is an exception to the ones they have been to (with regards to having no choice over food). I haven't been to many weddings in my life, and the last one we went to a few months ago, we had 2 choices per course. Our venue are flexible though, they said they will accommodate the odd different choice, and they said the bride can have whatever she likes!! I'm happy with that :)
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Were not giving choices either.... We're not made of money lol
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
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clairenina: I don't have much experience either but my friends do and according to them, the norm is a chicken option and a vegetarian option for the main course, and if you're lucky you might get a meat and veggie option for the starter too; this also reflects most of the venues we saw; some did offer choices, but only at a hefty per-head supplement which I thought was ridiculous and didn't see the logic in. Ours was very much the exception.
One thing I would say is that I would have what your guests are having; I don't think it'd be right for you to eat something different :-)
weedles: we've been really lucky and our venue are letting us have options at no extra cost. The only caveat is that we have to get guests to select what they want in advance and get the numbers to the venue ie they can't just decide on the day; that would've cost a LOT extra.
CommentAuthorclairenina
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babrbie86: the only course I am having different from my guests is I'm having soup, as I don't like pate (which my H2B wants the starter choice to be). I'm happy to do that, it's not like I'm having a big posh meal, and they are having chicken.
At the end of the day, it's costing me a 6 fixure sum for 1 day, so I think I can have a choice :)
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Oh yeah that's fine; I was just picturing you tucking into lobster while they had chicken lol. Also TBF most guests will prob prefer the pate anyway!
