I know its going to cause arguments even before it is mentioned but I really dont want children at our wedding. The thing is I have 5 step grandchildren 3 of which are wild and dont listen to anybody. Oh has agreed to it being a child free day but I just know that my step daughter is going to make a fuss as she has twin girls and wants them to be flower girls. How can I tell them without arguments?
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
If you dont want children just say it outright however hard it will be. It caused quite a few problems for us but most understood
Also if u rnt planning on flower girls just say that also
My mam n dad had a child free reception, my cousin was flower girl but had to be taken home after photos etc
We r only having 5 kids. 2 r mine 1 is my neice (shes flowergirl also) the best mams daughter and my.bridesmaids daughter. We thought if ours will be there they at least need some friends so we stuck to wedding partys children only
Weve only 1 couple not coming due to no children allowed any others who have a prblem with it only have a problem cos they will miss the ceremony etc as their baby sitters are all working till 6ish so can only make the evening lol
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Just say it. I'd say it's a blanket rule, you can't afford to accommodate children too plus there's no space etc etc.
Your step daughter will just have to accept it and respect your wishes.
We had a no children rule only making an exception for family plus one baby who was only a few months old so would be no trouble.
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
Were having the same thing with our day. Were happy for them to bring the children to the evening do but during the day we would like it just to be adults. So far we haven't had anyone kick up any fuss - my MOH's son will be looked after by her in laws and then their going to drop him over when the evening reception starts. Just tell them. End of the day its yours and your OH's day and if this is what you want they have to respect that xx
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CommentAuthorclairenina
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We didn't invite any children to ours, as we didn't want any there. Our invitations were all named, so if names were not on, people weren't invited. Nobody questioned it, but I'm sure for some people this might happen. Your wedding though, not theirs. Do what makes you happy x
I've said that children i've invited to the day aprt of the wedding are obviously welcome to stay til the evening but anyone whos invited to just the evening i've said no children as it takes up so many numbers. Without being mean i'm allowed 120 for the evening. 75 are going to the day so out of the extra 45 theres no space for children. I have one cousin who has 4 children so they would take up 6 of those numbers if they brought their children rather than 2. I don't mean to sound mean! our wedding is going to be on new years eve too and i doubt everyone who usually goes out that evening atkes their children with them.
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
We initially said the only children that we would allow would be our 2 page boys, however after speaking to my cousin (she will need to travel down the Friday and go home Sunday after the wedding) we have decided to allow her 2 boys. This is because its not just a day/evening she would need child care for it would be a weekend.
I'd much rather have her 2 boys there than her not attend.
CommentAuthorEmily17
I'd have had a chat with her before you send the invites. And make it both of you there so that it's definitely a joint decision
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CommentAuthormichgib
Hope she takes it ok
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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Only children invited to our wedding is our own son (his best friend/my best friends girl) and our three nephews, I couldn't imagine not having the closest family children at our wedding.
I'd be hurt if my parents got remarried and their grandson wasn't invited but then it does depend on space limitations etc.
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CommentAuthormichgib
Well to be honest it has nothing to do with space I just dont do children
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
At the end of the day its your wedding and should have it as you wish.
I don't think there is any way you can do it without there being some upset. The best thing to do is be honest from the start and just say its a no kids wedding.
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
Be very honest to begin with. You're wanting an adult only day and it would be unfair to tell everyone they can't bring their kids then have your step grandkids turn up. To be honest a lot of parents will probably be relieved to have the night off from parenting and getting to let their hair down.
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I had children from my family and also my MOH's two children and my other close friend's daughter. A few other friends I asked if they would mind if I did not invite theirs as it would put numbers up and cost etc, they were more than happy with that and said they would actually prefer to come without the children.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Most of hubby's friends have kids and they all loved having a kids free day where they could just enjoy themselves without having to supervise their children. Some even stayed overnight and left their kids with their parents so a full night off.
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CommentAuthormichgib
I didn't think of it that way
CommentAuthorShireenS13
A lot of my partner and I friend's have children and same with distant relatives. So, we have decided to have our nieces and nephews there (4 nephews and 3 nieces altogether) as we have no children & as much as we'd like to give everyone the option to take their kids our budget wouldn't allow it. x
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
its your day so its up to you who you want. just like the others said mention it to her first x
CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
We put a line on our invitations to say that we could only accommodate children of immediate family. One of my Nieces is only a baby and the other one was flower girl. My 13 year old half sister was bridesmaid. We had to make an exception for my Cousin as she had to bring her sons (one is 11 and the other is 7 months) but they were all really well behaved.
CommentAuthormichgib
Thats what you want well behaved children. Unfortunaty the step sons are very badly behaved
CommentAuthorBaker2Be
Honestly I would mention it before the invites go out. We have a no child policy for the day we are allowing them to come to the evening. Everyone is fine and understands space is limited. The only one we had problems with is my OH cousin who wants to bring her two children. As far as we are concerned her OH parents can watch them and bring them on the evening as we have invited them to the night do. I don't think people take into account that the numbers are limited and also the cost. I would rather have an adult who understands rather than a disruptive child.
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