Myself and my fiancé are both male and are getting married this October (I know.. Not leVing a lot of time to plan)
Just wondering if someone could give us some pointers on how things work with both male partners here as I see its predominantly for female brides lol.
Any information would be much appreciated.
Many thanks
Tom
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorEmily17
Hi Tom and welcome :) I'd ask your questions the same as us. Just because your male doesn't make planning a wedding any easier :)
Good luck! :)
Met in 2009
He proposed Jan 2014
Will become Mrs P 7th October 2017
CommentAuthorSarah D
Hi and welcome Tom! Congratulation's on your engagement and upcoming wedding!
I really had no clue about the legal side of things but speaking to our registry office really helped, they explained it all so I now know whats what, im sure they would help you with any questions you have and also you should prob get onto them to see they have your date and preferred time.
X
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Hi tom welcome and good luck with the planning!!
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorTomW75
Thank you for the warm welcome.
I'm just getting used to the layout of the site and getting my bearings together lol.
Have entered as many competitions as possible to help take the strain off as we are on a budget.
This wedding planning is ALL new to both of us, neither have been engaged before let along married lol.
T x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
I think most of us will be in the same boat too on the never been engaged/married front, this forum has lots of helpful to do's etc and any questions just ask and people are very helpful.
I had ideas and budget in mind before I started booking things and it is all flowing really well, theres a helpful DIY thread on here and that's a good way to save money making and doing things yourself.
Have you got a venue in mind?
Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorTomW75
Yeah I think I'll have a look at those forums.. Have spent majority of time glued to Pinterest and getting ideas.
We have booked the Huntingtower Hotel in Perth for a bargain £2015 which includes everything except honeymoon, flowers, outfits etc.
What about yourself SaragS319? X
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
Hi Tom, welcome and congratulations! I had no clue about anything either but this site has definitely helped me so I'm sure it will take the strain off a little! You seem to have got a good deal on your venue! x
Got together on 14th March 2010
Got engaged on 25th December 2013
Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorSarah D
I love P1nterest too! Don't know if were aloud to use the full name, when using website names disguise them lol
That's great Tom, we have booked Piperdam by Dundee, its not to far from Perth.
I looked at Huntingtower hotel when I was looking for venues its very nice there.
We have a package deal also as far as our ceremony, drinks, meals etc go and its been great everything is covered and now im just sorting out the finer details and arranging appointments for dress shopping!
We have booked our photographer, band, videographer and the registrar so far.
Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
welcome tom and congrats theres been a few men on here before but not many but if you have any questions just ask theres always someone here to help xx
Officially married my best friend 2/5/2015 (secretly)
Big wedding 18/06/2016
CommentAuthorEmmaH444
Hello Tom,
congratulations and
Met 29/3/2006
Engaged 24/8/13
Married 26th August 2016
CommentAuthorFlossie
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Hi Tom, congratulations and welcome to the forum :)
Don't worry.. we're all in the same boat as you! This place is fab for support, advice and ideas :)
Happily married
18th June 2016
xx
CommentAuthorTomW75
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Whoops my bad lol.. I'll remember than one.
Just had a look at Piperdam..it looks lovely
We chose Huntingtower due to location, price and capacity.
We still have the finer things to decide and iron over too but we have a full week/weekend of planning ahead.
Had to edit this as it only chose the first too lines for some reason..does this happen often?
Many thanks for the warm welcome Ladies
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorSarah D
Good luck with all the planning this upcoming few days keep us updated with your doing :-)
Thank you we both love the venue too cant wait to get married there!
Hmm not sure about that as ive not had any issues with posting before
Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorTomW75
I shall do, there is an open wedding night tomorrow at the venue so we can see what it's gonna look like all dressed up
We attended the wedding fayre at Perth racecourse few weeks back which helped lots with meeting possible vendors
It's all very exciting
X
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorSarah D
I was at Perth racecourse to! I liked that Wedding show there were lots of people there and got some good ideas too!
It wasn't you who won the competition for the Piper was it?
Its very exciting all I can think of daily now haha x
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorTomW75
Ah were you? Small world eh hehe.. It was such a nice day, I was watching everyone whilst the fashion show Watson and all males looked bored and all females looked besotted with the dresses.. If I remember correctly 2 of the models nearly fell at the same part of the catwalk? Luckily it wasn't too bad.
Erm..not as far as I'm aware no lol.. We have a family friend now living in Denmark who piped my mums wedding so I hope she can make ours too.. Fingers crossed.
Can you remember the name of the company upstairs that sold the best tasting cakes EVER? I want one lol.
X
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorSarah D
Yeah very small! lol I really enjoyed it too, I didn't go to the catwalk until 3.00pm was it the earlier one you were at? I wasn't overly thrilled by the choice of dresses and the girls shoes ruined it for the dresses they were wearing! The guys in kilts looked great though!
Oh I tried 2 different cake samples and I cant remember the name of them I still have all the flyers at home ill see if there was any for cakes see if you can narrow it down.
I am hoping my fiancé's relative can do our piping, I say relative because even hes unsure of the relation could be cousin could be second cousin or uncle! lol
Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Wow Tom what a bargain use got on your venue lucky use!!
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorTomW75
Me too, was the first wedding fayre and it won't be the last . Ah right yeah we went to the one before approx 1pm ish lol.
I agree completely, there wasn't much variety was there! Lol
I'm searching through the wee bag they gave us but I've discovered two holes in it and lost pens etc haha.
Bonnie wee cakes.. That's it! EUREKA haha
Aw what bless..hopefully he works it out in time for your big day hehe
X
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTomW75
Thank you DanielleS0709 we thought it was a bargain considering the location of the hotel and all what's included
T X
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Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorSarah D
For the 3 oclock show they were spraying the floor with hair spray to stop them slipping
I said to my sister when we were at the catwalk that ill remember not to visit that shop because if that's the "best" they had to offer id hate to see the bad dresses haha! I was at the Scottish Bridal show in Glasgow on sunday and that was a catwalk!
I liked the goody bag from, Perth! I got a Mac eye liner in mine was well impressed! Glad you found the bakers you liked I've not made any decisions on the cake yet seen a few ideas though!
He's got his sister roped into to do the asking but still didn't ask what relation they were haha!
Sarah Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Hi tom and welcome.
Remember the package won't include the registrar if you haven't already id get onto them and get it booked.
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorclairenina
Welcome along, and congratulations xx
CommentAuthorTomW75
Omg really? That'll be because of the 2 that slipped at the 1Pm show.. Bless them.
I don't blame you! I only seen one kilt that I liked and thought was different and that the navy/blue one with the tartan tread on the kilt.. Was the first thing you noticed when you went upstairs..LOVE IT
Yeah me too lol, an aloe Vera one? I think now that same sex marriages are legal and more common they should maybe change the goodie bags they provide as it seemed very feminine to me (I don't mind as much as I'm into drag lol) but for John I think it was a bit much for his masculinity hehe.
It just popped into my head there like my memory had pulled it from my subconscious lol.. Their lemon drizzle cake and their red velvet cake was SO moist and to die for but very expensive for our budget but I can dream eh haha.
There is a woman that makes cakes in her house and has done for years now near Perth that we have met up with, she is lovely and much cheaper than the shops charge and can make whatever we ask of her which she made a point of letting us know it's completely up to us which I really like..can't stand pushy vendors lol
Oh dear..at least you may have a piper after alleged though you may not know the relation haha.
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTomW75
ElizabethF49 - Thank you for the welcome and the advice
clairenina - Thank you and a belated congratulations to you and your significant other
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
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CommentAuthorSarah D
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Tried to send a reply and got called away to a meeting! so my reply was gone as i got logged out!
Imagine slipping on the catwalk poor girls!
I liked a few kilts and there were a few that stood out, are you both wearing kilts??
I think the goody bags should be changed to so they can accommodate for all.
If you have found someone who is good at cakes and can save you some money then go for it, our engagement cake was made by a baker in Dundee and it was fabulous but quiet pricey but was worth it! lol we might use her for our wedding cake too, we wanted a cake that was different not 2 hearts or a cake with a ring box on top boring lol so we went for something that represents us both I love leopard print and H2B is an Ad1das originals fan so I got this
Sarah Xx
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CommentAuthorTeresa
hi there Tom, welcome to the site and congratulations to you and John, i bet your so excited :)
CommentAuthorTomW75
No problems lol.
I know, they looked totally embarrassed bless them.
Yeah we are both wearing kilts, we have totally different tastes so it's gonna be difficult coming to a comprise but we'll manage somehow lol. I like the blues and purples of Spirit of Scotland style kilts and John is more the grey, black colours. I keep saying that we don't have to be matching but I think that's what he wants it to be lol.
We're going to try some on this weekend and hopefully set our mind on one or two that we definitely want.
I was thinking that but then again you never know how it's going to turn out when it's made in someone's house.. Suppose I'm scared it will look a mess lol.
I like how it represents you both rather than the usual as you said BORING ones you see.
You know something..we haven't even had an engagement party haha.
We are going for a slightly traditional look for the cake but modern things to represent us.. Us two on top in our kilts with our wee boy.. The dog haha
Then a sight post for where we met at loch Tummel and other wee personal things.
Hopefully all goes to plan lol
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTomW75
Thank you Teresa, we are indeed..totally and utterly excited X
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Engaged.. April 2014
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CommentAuthorTeresa
we didnt have an engagement part either, gutted, would have been another excuse for a knees up :)
CommentAuthorTomW75
I think we may hold the engagement party and have it at the reception..two birds and one stone
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTeresa
good plan, like your thinking :)
CommentAuthorSarah D
I like the traditional and grey and black kilts too! but Iain's Grandad had a kilt which we are going to have cleaned and get new buckles etc and sized for him so its the family tartan and has sentimental value too!
Ask for a sample of her cake and try asking around about her too, word of mouth will tell you plenty.
Our colour scheme is grey/silver and sparkle so im thinking of a sparkly tier too! I thought of having our baby boy the dog included too but not sure yet lol
I think we are going to use places we have been together for our table names
We were up at Loch Tummel last year for a day trip and Pitlochry Xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Hi Tom and congrats! Myself and my fiancee are two ladies (same sex marriage) getting married so if you need any help with the legalities or anything else, do shout :) looking forward to seeing your plans come together! xx
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
We are having Scottish lochs as out table names.
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorTomW75
Away that'll be nice. I wish my family had a special tartan but hey ho lol it's to be expected with a surname of Welsh who's Scottish, Irish and Malaysian lol.
We are gonna head up for a taster session once she has got back in touch so fingers crossed it tastes like heaven and is moist haha.
Awwh that'll be nice.. I think we are going to stick to burple (no typo lol) and silver/grey with maybe a little yellow or orange thrown in as it's an autumn after all lol.
That's such a good idea..hope you don't mind if I pinch it? Hehe
No way..the world is getting even smaller lol.. I worked up there as a lifeguard and barman for a season..that's how me and John met.
Such beautiful views and surroundings up there though isn't there.
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTomW75
OwlandtheButterfly - hi there and thank you for you post..big congratulations to you and your B2B
Away thank you..much appreciated.. We are just confused as none of us have even been to a same sex wedding..all we know is we don't want it too traditional as we will be choking our own fabulous traditions hehe.
Where are you and your B2B planning on tying the knot?
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
H2bs tartan is red/green (lindsay modern) the rest of the guys are in spirit of Scotland (I would say its more purple than blue though)
Is there not a Welsh tartan?
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorTeresa
my brother and dad are wearing kilts at my wedding, they are wearing pride of ireland, its a green based one, and a prince charlie jacket and waist coat with semi dress sporran and all the accessories
CommentAuthorTomW75
Yeah we found the spirit of Scotland one more purple and others similar but more blue's etc I just can't remember the name of it lol.
There is Walsh and Welsh tartan but None of them float my boat I'm afraid..too picky lol.
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorTomW75
this is what we've come up with for now.. This one as well as the grey one with grey jacket etc..
Wedding outfit
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorJennK
Hi Tom and welcome to the ukb crew :)
Our perfect day - 08.08.15 <3
CommentAuthorTomW75
Thank you MrsK2B :)
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Thank you! We are getting married in the West Country where I hail from :)
When it comes to a same sex wedding, it's not a same sex wedding, it's just a wedding... There are two people, in love and who want to get married but the fact that there are two grooms, two brides, a bride and groom is irrelevant. Make the day about you both and do what you want! Traditions can be used or thrown to the side and it's not a case of 'there's two grooms' so we can't do this, it's having exactly what you want irrespective of sex :) us for example - we've never been to a same sex wedding but we are still having a civil ceremony, blessing in a cathedral followed by a reception with food, dancing and everyone we love will be there which is exactly what a hetero couple would do so we aren't compromising just because we are two girls!
Much love x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
Hi and welcome to UKBride! I've just had a peek at your venue, it looks gorgeous! Think I've driven past it a couple when visiting my uncle (he lives in Crieff) xx
CommentAuthorTeresa
thats nice Tom :)
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Hiya Tom, welcome to the site. HVe fun with all the planning.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorTomW75
OwlandtheButterfly - you are right, maybe I'm reading too much into what's been shovelled down my throat all these years lol.
Where in West Country? I LOVE Somerset..it has my heart :)
DebbieW58 - small world..that's my hometown and where most of my mums side of the family live..may know your uncle lol
Tom x
Soulmates
Laid eyes.. August 2013
Engaged.. April 2014
Become Mr & Mr Healy-Welsh.. October 2015
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Tom what does your package include or maybe it would be better to say what doesn't it include? Lol I see u have to get your own cake I just ordered mines last week I'm having a naked cake