I'm so upset for them. Had no idea they were going through all this and theres me banging on about my wedding all the time and what bratts my kids are being. Thing is I really don't know what to say to them. I fell pregnant when I was 20 despite being on the pill so I feel really awkward. I really want to do something to cheer up my friend but not sure what as pretty skint at the moment. Any one got any ideas?
CommentAuthorginge23
GI im sure she would appreciate a night at home with some wine nibbles and dvds then if she feels she wants to chat she can with no pressure. Must be such a hard thing to find out for anybody xxx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Yeah I agree with ginge23 - just invite her round to yours - couple of dvds, wine, choccies etc.... Then if she needs to talk she has the opportunity! xx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorG.I
She doesn't seem to want to talk about it though, she's bottling it all up and taking it out on her husband apparantly. Wish I could afford to arrange a weekend away for them but with the wedding coming up I just have no spare cash
CommentAuthorMRST
thats such a shame it must be horrible goin through that. just let her know you are hear for her and if she needs to talk then she will x
Im sure in time GI she will want to talk its maybe to sore just now. When did they find out?? xx
CommentAuthorjo
its a grieving process, there will be anger and resentment and blame until they start to come to terms with it. it must be such a horribl thing to go through my heart goes out to them, all you can do is let her know your there when she needs to let it out xx
CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
what really sh*tty news. A girly night sounds like good idea just to take her mind off it for one night. xx
I can't believe we've actually done it
I am now Mrs Limara Tester
CommentAuthorG.I
Apaprantly they tried for 9 months a couple of years ago then stopped then have been trying again recently but they finally saw a specialist last month. I'm not sure exactly what the problem is but they are starting her on medication then if that doenst work, there is a possibility of having her ovaries drilled which just sounds awful. They've been told it's unlikely it will work though. If I could have the baby for her, I would though I'm not sure my 6 pack would hold up through a third pregnancy!
CommentAuthorRelfy
A girls night does sound like a good idea babe. or even if you go to the pictures or some thing, im sure just spending time with you will help her even if she doesnt talk about it. The main thing is they both feel the support and love from firends and family x x
CommentAuthorKevsgirl
Ahhhh GI what a wonderful friend you are. She's lucky to have you and I am sure she knows that.
I totally understand whats she is going through and I totally bottled it up, couldn't talk to anyone who had children.
To this day I can't look in mother care and overt my eyes when I see a pg bump. It cuts me like a knife.
It is a heart breaking thing to have to go through.
x
CommentAuthorjo
theres all sorts of things she could try once shes got her head around it. my mums friend and husband spent years trying and were told they couldnt concieve and after 3 lots of failed ivf they cale to terms with the possibility it just wasnt supposed to be. once they took that pressure off she got pregnant naturally to everyones suprise and now has her own child
CommentAuthorG.I
it's breaking my heart and it's not even me going through it. My kids are my absolute life and although my first wasn't planned, I cant imagine the chance to have him being taken away from him. My heart goes out to anyone who has to go through this. Makes me sick to my stomach to see decent peoples lives ripped apart when you have such awful people having children and not looking after them proeryly. I'm keeping everything crossed fo them x
CommentAuthorG.I
Jo, thats exactly what I told my friend earlier. I have another friend who had 3 lots of failed IVF, had to move to a smaller house to pay for it then eventually gave up hope. She then went onto have a beautiful baby girl naturally 4 years later. Just wish I could help take the pressure off her.
CommentAuthorjo
im sure your doing all the right things me dear, and your friend knows this its just very fresh at the moment, she'll appreciate having you there when shes ready
CommentAuthorDan and Lisa :o)
I agree with Ginge 2 hun! Just be there wen she needs u ;o)
