Sorry just need to vent. I'm getting a little bit frustrated with my (potential) guests, and lack of RSVP's. I have always had the good manners to RSVP, and do so in good time so people can plan. Seems like people aren't doing the same for me :( I'm sure I'm not the only person who has this issue, but isn't it frustrating?
Rant over......and breathe lol
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
YES!!! RSVPs are so annoying! Asked someone today when are you going to send back your RSVP - she said well you know we're coming! I said well I dont actually, plus I need your menu choices - ill email you! How hard is it to fill in the RSVP we spent ages designing and making and frigging well hand it back to me (if you dont want to pay for a stamp)......ARGHHHH
my flaming sister hasnt even RSVPd yet ......i know we have put "by 31st may" but still.....
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
We're the same. Particularly annoying are those who we have invited out of courtesy but who we are sure will not come. Some have responded no, but a lot haven't, and it's worrying as they might assume they don't need to tell us. It's them we're most likely to end up chasing. Some have at least said "I am coming, but I will send back the RSVP", which is better than nothing. Others have said that they definitely want to come but they can't be certain. There are a few Methodist clergy on the list, and as a minister's daughter I can appreciate the difficulty that they have, as two are moving to new appointments. Methodist clergy always move during August to start on September 1st, and could well have their induction services the previous weekend, the same weekend as the wedding. There's nothing they can do about it, they just have to wait until they're given a date. Other clergy could find themselves expected to attend or lead an induction service that weekend, again they have no choice. I'm resigned to not having definite answers for quite a while yet. It may be that some people will say they can make the ceremony but not the evening do, which is fine. A couple of my colleagues have already said that's what they'll do.
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CommentAuthorShowgirl
OH's bosses have already RSVP'd but so far no one on my side - fair enough my Mum and step-dad have been on holiday for 3 weeks but then I found out that they didn't even bother to give my dad his invite (or the invites for him to hand out to the rest of the family) even though he was the one driving them to and from the airport (yes, we're lucky in that their divorce was very amicable and they're still friends) so we now have to make a special trip just to give out invites that should have traded hands 4 weeks ago. I was worried about RSVPs getting lost in the post so we set up a website for people to RSVP - OH's BIL managed to load the website on his mobile, enter the passwords and RSVP in less than 20 seconds so I have no idea what my family (who have so far received their invite) are playing at!
CommentAuthorVickyB70
I was just about to start the same thread lol! I'm getting really annoyed with people. If it was me receiving a wedding invite id be too excited to hold on to it - I'd want them to know I was going. Can't get my head around some peoples thinking x
I am having the same issue! We have 145 people invited and 23 people have RSVP'd so far! Many have said "do you need the RSVP back?" No we put them in each invitation for decoration, of course we do! And h2b's mother even had the audacity to state that we hadn't provided stamps for the RSVP envelopes! That would have cost a fortune! We put in the RSVP's and addressed return envelopes, I'm sure people can manage to buy a stamp to go on them! I'm hoping that we will get an influx in the next couple of weeks but I'm not holding my breath! Xxx
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CommentAuthorSusie
Im getting married in 6 and half weeks...my rsvp date was last wednesday. I have had to chase up 60 people since then, and Ive still got 16 left to get hold of.
It gets my goat that people - even when you provide them with a stamp free option of doing it on your website - still need to be chased up! Some of them are aunts, cousins and even my own sister!
But hey ho, once you girlies get closer to your wedding, eventually you reach that point of stress when you finally say F888 it, and just start writing to them (the ones who havent bothered to get in touch) and say, oh dear,sorry you cannot come! LOL
CommentAuthorAH86
I dread this part...
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
People probably don't realise the priority that's why, and some may have forgotten when your deadline was. Thing with guests is that the weddings not a priority til they have to maybe get a new outfit...not a priority as it is to us,the bride and groom, anyway x
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
I keep having people saying 'well obviously I'm coming I don't have to message you!' You're not alone, the annoyance is there for all! xxx
CommentAuthorLauraK7
I'm dreading this I will want to know straight away lol
CommentAuthorclairenina
lol Laura, that's why I have given people only 4 weeks to RSVP
CommentAuthorLeahAmy
Well I'm having the same problem and the wedding is round the corner :-( ... My family assume they don't have to send one back as 'well you know I'm coming' but I do still would like the RSVP's back! Also the people we have asked out of curtesy but have not send a RSVP back to me have bad manners 'I take time in using a invitation up for you knowing you never make a effort to come to friends celebrations for you to not even say anything when I see you (I'm not bringing it up I like to test manners) or send it back even saying no.
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CommentAuthorclairenina
Same here Leah, all of my fiance's family have not replied. I will be making a call to his Dad saying if they don't RSVP, we will assume they aren't coming lol
CommentAuthorCJGroove
Grrr, I thought it was just me! Just a week to go for the cut-off date and still have a substantial number of people whom need to reply! It's very irritating, especially because 2 groups who haven't done are quite large but also people who I can't NOT have at the wedding, they're close family.
CommentAuthorKirsty
We had this, I said if we haven't heard back you are not coming! We did enjoy embarrassing one set of cousins at a family do, they were all nattering about the wedding and aaron and I turned to these cousins and said 'we assume you are not coming as you didnt rsvp'. To which they blushed and all of his aunties and uncles laid into them about how rude it was! I felt good!
CommentAuthorFionaR41
Our invitations went out with an RSVP and on it was a return date of end of June - so far we have only had 10 replies back and they were sent more or less straight away. I hope we get a few more before then as dreading having to contact all those who haven't replied.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I think we should have all our day ones in by the deadline of 1st May, bar 4 people who are out of the country and who I've said can send us theirs a bit later (they've said they're coming, we just need to know what they're eating).
The evening ones on the other hand... I'm def going to be chasing the 5 colleagues I've invited I reckon, and it is really annoying, as space is limited, and if we get any declines, we'll be inviting other people instead. I'll basically give them until a couple days after the deadline and then just ask them for a straight answer. If they umm and ahh I'll politely say that because of space I'll have to take it as a no and invite someone else.
So yeah, I feel your frustration. It's really irritating. Weddings are stressful and time-consuming enough without being given extra work because people are incapable of ticking 'yes' or 'no' and putting the stamped addressed RSVP in a post box...
CommentAuthorVickyB70
I don't see why its so hard for people?! Surely people know how stressful organizing a wedding is without having to chase them up for an RSVP. We have supplied an addressed envelope in with the invite (not stamped as that would have cost a fortune) and still we've only had 5 replies! Out of those 5 replies only 2 have been filled out correctly!! Grrrr so annoying.
CommentAuthorShowgirl
How do you fill out an RSVP incorrectly? Surely you just need to be able to write your name, tick a box to say if they will or will not be attending and in some cases indicate a meal preference.
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Haha Vicky my h2b's parents filled theirs out wrong! They wrote out our names instead of theirs! xxx
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CommentAuthorVickyB70
Haha that's worse than my wrong ones linzi!! I've had someone not actually tick whether they're coming or not coming, another with no meal option returned with it and then another where they didn't put all the names on - it's crazy how people can get it so wrong lol x
CommentAuthorDanielleMystic
am dreading this part the most! really hope we're one of the lucky ones and everyone gets back to us on time - but got a feeling it wont work like that lol best of luck everyone x
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CommentAuthorRosalind
Out of 80 people invited we have had 4 rsvp's! A lot of people have told us in person they are coming but would be nice to have it in black and white. Still got afew to chase up though.
If they turn up on the day and theres no food for them then that's tough!
Good luck wveryone hope your special days go well.
CommentAuthorJadeE26
I totally feel your pain. We have had 2 rsvps lol! Friends and family just assume you know they are coming for definite I guess. I had the same issue with my hen do which my friend was trying to plan and no-one would get back to her so I had to step in and take over which still took some going on! I dont want to keep posting on fb for rsvps nor do I think I should have to chase every single person but unless I do I have no idea how many to cater for etc! I dont think people appreciate how expensive the meals are and what we would lose if they were to not turn up. My h2b has the attitude of if you havent rsvp'd we arent catering for you.. I dont think he realises we will have alot of angry guests then haha! It is so frustrating though. I can safely say I am relieved I am not giving a menu choice as thats one less thing I have to chase and I am not chasing people to book hotel rooms either because again thats not my problem :-)! Hope you all get your rsvp's back :-) x
CommentAuthorChanelP
I was silly and forgot yo put a date for RSVPs to be returned. I am chasing people up all the time out of 84 only have 27 left to RSVP for the day and out of 60 evening guests have not recieved any RSVPs x
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CommentAuthorclairenina
Nearly all of my family are not coming. I only have my Mum, her husband, and my 2 brothers coming. People saying they are either on holiday, or have no holidays left for our day. Pretty annoyed really, especially as Save the Date's were sent out
CommentAuthorAprilS61
I have learned from many of these posts to write their names on so no extra people can be invited. I'm dreading the RSVPs haha
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
April - it doesnt matter if you only put 1 name on the invite, they still call up "can i bring so and so..." this has happened twice to us now! My OH brother split with his girlfriend so we sent him an invite with only his name on - then he FB messages my H2B asking "is it OK if I bring Vicky?"......erm....since when were you back together? Oh we're not, just close friends. I said we should say no but H2B is like - hes my brother we have to! But it does boil my blood people just assume its an open invite! My friend text me last night asking for hotel options - so i assume shes coming even though no RSVP! plus, I put together a whole wedding website, put link on invites, and listed a whole page of hotels! what more can i do?! lol My auntie has booked her hotel so Ive been told - managed to send me a birthday card for last sat but still couldnt seem able to put the RSVP inside??!! crazy!
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
oh - and we havent even made the night time invites yet! arghhhhh
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CommentAuthorShowgirl
Still handing out our first round of invites but we have just had an RSVP back from the ones I was most worried about. We decided to invite my Dad and his wife but not her kids (who are in their late teens so can easily entertain themselves for a day/wouldn't want to be there anyway) and to my surprise they actually just kept to the names on the invite and sent the RSVP from just the 2 of them... soo relieved!! Now to just wait and see if OH's cousins want to bring their partners... Still no RSVP from anyone else in my family yet though.
CommentAuthorclairenina
We had to give people a gentle nudge towards our return by date. I just dropped people a line saying I'm just finalising numbers.
CommentAuthorAprilS61
Oh dear MrsF I've got it all to come
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I'm dreading this part :/
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Im really not looking forward to this part, its where my stress levels will rise :(
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
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CommentAuthorclairenina
I've had that many "no's", we're now short of people. People in the evening can't be moved as they are not free during the day. Need to find 4 more people
April - it doesnt matter if you only put 1 name on the invite, they still call up "can i bring so and so..." this has happened twice to us now!
