My numbers are extremely tight with a max of 60 guests for wedding breakfast with a push to 62 if we add two more on top table. My family alone totals 31 and my H2B totals 30. Is it embarrassing if there are no friends there but they would be invited at the evening????
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CommentAuthorclair
Why would it be embarrassing? It your day and if u would rather have all you family there and no friends then so be it! I will only have 2 friends at my wedding as the rest is all family. Invite all your friends to the evening do I'm sure they will understand. A lot of people just like the big party any way lol. Oh and just a thought, maby you could cut the cake later when your friends arrive at the evening or do you first dance when every one is there. That way you could still have your friends involved in some important parts of the day :).
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CommentAuthorkjl87
That is how I am doing mine. Family are invited to the day and then any friends are welcome to the evening. I need a minimum of 65 to get the food package that I want and I don't want to go over that number of guests because we don't want to spend anymore money. There are some friends who I would prefer to come over some family members but obviously can't do that.
Maybe if some family members can't come then you could invite some friends to go during the day instead?
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
That seems fine, not embarrassing at all. If you both want your whole families at the wedding breakfast then that's fine.
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
Why would it be embaressing? One of my closest friends couldn't even invite their cousins. It was immediate family only for the WB but we all got to go to the wedding ad the evening reception which was still a lot of fun and we just went out for a meal at a nearby pub while they had their WB. Was a lot of fun actually as we didn't have to sit through speeches lol
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We are having 100 for the day and that is very tight to get as we have loads we want there . The only friends we are having is best man and MOH and my ushermaid while other friends will make up the extra 100 guests for evening :)
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CommentAuthorJennK
Not embarrassing at all! I am the other way round, tiny family so the bulk invited will be friends!
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Not at all, there are lots of couples who do this xx
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CommentAuthorTanyaS78
We are in the same position that we have got limited numbers. We have asked a couple of friends to come to the day do, but its mainly family for the day and friends coming the evening.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
not embarasing, but you should weigh up how much your friends mean to you over the family, i personally am not inviting several memebers of my family to the day as they just don't make any effort eht rest of the time so i refuse to pay for them to eat and have a good day and pretend everything alright between us
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I don't think it's embarrassing if that's what u want. We both have massive families and are only having 57 at the day but we've gone with family we've seen recently and then friends we've seen recently just so we have a mix of both. Some haven't got invited to the day just because they are family x
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CommentAuthorAmandaK74
Our day guests are just close family all 25 of them ( small group compared to most). Then we too are inviting friends for the evening reception and then its only a guest list of 60.
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
I don't think it would be embarrassing; for us; h2b has a rather big family and mine only consists of a about 7 so we are able to invite a mix of family and friends but I think it is fine to have just family there :)
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CommentAuthorNaomiD23
Thanks Ladies all your comments have been really helpful and now I feel better about the situation xx
CommentAuthorFlossie
Not embarrassing at all - we will only be having family at our day during the wedding (plus 4 of my closest friends who are being my bridesmaids) and all friends will be invited to the evening xx
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CommentAuthorNaomiD23
I decided I always wanted my two closest friends as bridesmaids who are in fact also my sisters, made sense to me. Having such a large family can only mean friends will be invited on the evening. x
CommentAuthorNikkiE58
I agree with Whovianbride2b we're not inviting some of my FI's family, as his are large and do t make the effort with us, the only time they get together are Weddings, funerals and Christenings! (Although not our DD's), so why would we put our family in front of friends who we see all of the time, and who are the ones who CHOSE to have us in their lives, not due to blood. But each to their own, you may be very close with your family, and they may be the ones that you can rely upon to turn up. I wouldn't find it embarrassing for you if I knew it was strictly family for the day, everyone chooses their guest list differently. Good luck!
CommentAuthorJessica29792
I don't think it would be embarrassing at all, at the end of the day it is who you want to share your special day with and if that doesn't involve your friends, or can't involve your friends then they should accept that. For our wedding we will mostly be having family. Our guest list totals roughly about 70 and that mostly includes family, with three of my friends and a plus one on top, and my h2b's best friend who is also our best woman plus whoever she wants to bring with her. That is all the friends that we will be having and I don't find it strange or embarrassing at all. Partly because I don't care what people think about my friendships, I have gone through a lot with so called friends so I now literally only have about three friends which are the ones I am going to invite. As for my h2b he feels like he couldn't spend our special day with any of his friends as it would be awkward and a little embarrassing if they were there. In all, it comes down to what you want and what you can afford. If people can't see that and make a big fuss out of whether they are invited or not, then just ignore them and leave them to stew. They will eventually come round to your side of thinking, so try not to worry about it :) x
CommentAuthorsALLY
we are not having our cousins to the wedding as we have a few and our numbers are tight which means instead of our cousins we are inviting 4 close friends then all the cousins in the evening.... i agree with everyone its not embarrassing and friends will understand
CommentAuthorHazelM69
no i have exactly the same thing all my friends understand and think its quite nice! ITs ur day don't be embarrassed about anything
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Ours went perfectly just so you know, having it the way we wanted x
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CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
not at all hun do whatever you feel is rights xxx
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CommentAuthorCamilaL
I don't think it's embarrassing at all. It's your big day ;)
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I don't think it is at all. It's not like they are missing out as you will be inviting them to the evening, but they must understand the reception is family only.
Where are you getting married? If somewhere big like a church they could always come along, see the wedding then come to the evening.
I was limited to 90 and as the evening was both our evening and main reception we had all we wanted there, but had to stop some bringing kids.