Wedding Forum - I might have got a bit confused!...

Ever since me and H2B first got engaged, H2B has always told me how brilliant baker his mum's partner is and what things we could save money on. His mum is a good seamstress and he mentioned about his mum's partner baking. I naturally thought the wedding cake!
Roll on a 18months and I texted MIL2B asking if her and her partner would be willing to make the wedding cake due to the background of her partner. Now I thought I remembered hearing H2B saying she was a major baker ... but I was wrong! The reply I got was that they would be delighted too, hurray!
Yesterday, me and H2B had a good video call and then he said 'oh by the way, I heard that you asked my mum and Linda (his mum's partner is a woman btw!) to do the wedding cake?' and he pulled a very confused and strange face! I replied that I had and I thought that was what we both had thought would be a great idea. Getting them involved and with his mum's partner being a great baker, which her previous jobs were before she moved up North. WRONG!! It turned out it was her dad that was the major baker and not her!! Opps! I had completely heard wrong.
Now H2B has never been very complementary about his mum's cooking. She was the type that used to walk away because she got bored and everything would get burnt! So now I am a little bit concerned, as obviously H2B is as well! How could I possibly take it back and get them not to make the wedding cake?! I've put myself in a massive hole. I told H2B that a chef at my place of work said he was more than willing to make it for me as he is soooooo good at cakes and desserts! I'm stuck, help?! x

what about asking her to do something else instead ... OOS maybe

I wouldn't not say something, she isn't likely to forget you asked her to make a wedding cake. I'd leave it a while and say you've been thinking and would rather they didn't stress about the cake and your chef friend has offered to do it for you.

I'd go with the we've been thinking and we'd prefer you to enjoy preparing for the day x

I know my H2B would be honest with her, saying that he would be concerned at she used to burn the dinner when he was little and they are always making jokes about it, but it was me that asked her, not H2B. So I'd rather not use that excuse because I never had that issue with her food.
I think the 'oh work said they were going to make a cake as a wedding present' would work better, because I will also be leaving my work when I am married. That will work!

Ahhh bit of a pickle there!! Well if all else fails and you end up cakeless i know someone who does cakes!(of course i know another trade lol) xxx

Hmmm yeah, have a word with your fiancé. Maybe wait until he is home and then if you decide to tell them work are making it as a gift then you have left it a bit of time as well for work to have suggested this.

I also think saying you don't want them stressing before the wedding as well. My mum makes lovely buns and makes them every Christmas and for everyone's Birthdays ect. I wouldn't ask her to make any for the wedding though as I know even though she makes really nice one's and she enjoys making them it can be stressful for her as she likes them to be perfect, so for a wedding she would get even more stressed about making them perfect.

Ok so my soon to be MIL offered to make our wedding cake. Great I thought. Then I saw one of her birthday cakes, putting it politely, it wasn't wedding cake standards. I felt very torn for a while. But then I found a rather complicated design I fell in love with, and just went and hired a professional to make it. When she asked about it, I told her I totally appreciated the offer, but I had my heart set on something that was very difficult and didn't want to put too much pressure on her. She seemed to go with that.

Try that?