I'm not sure what to do, I have issues with the family on my side and I don't want my mum and step dad to be centre of attention (they don't deserve it) so I asked H2B about not having a top table - he said no problem -BUT- I just don't know whether to have a table for two for me and him - or just include us as normal in the seating plan?! Are any of you ladies not having a top table - if so what are you doing ?? People keep saying your wedding your choice but it's so hard to decide ... Zoeeeee
CommentAuthorWinterrose
Have one for the two of you I saw it somewhere it's got a special name & then everyone else can be whereever you want to put them ;) x
CommentAuthorShell
I did think the same for a while (still might do it yet) both our families are split up parents ect... it would be so much easier to just have me, h2b and our 2 daughters then everyone can sit where they like, but I dunno yet. I wanted it all done properly. Might just tell them if they don't like it then they don't have to come :) xx
CommentAuthorSharyorks
have what you want as it's your day!! i am thinking about having a table for two as can't decide who to put on the 'top table'. x
CommentAuthorkellyc13
were having a top table but its a round table with all the others so no one is sat being stared at all night long, it will only have me, H2B, my parents and H2B parents on it as the rest of the bridal party will be sitting with their families x
It's so hard to decide - well I'm taking H2B to look at the venue this week so I think I'll decide after seeing it with him properly with the wedding co-ordinator there ..... good idea though girls ! thanks xxx
CommentAuthorCheryl22
the table for just the two of you is called a 'sweetheart table' - me and my OH were going to do this - but we decided my dad wasnt getting invited so it solved the problem lol
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CommentAuthorWinterrose
That's the one Cheryl! ;) couldn't remember! x
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
lol @ cheryl I wish it was as easy as not inviting someone but it's hard to do :(
CommentAuthormrselbie
I've been to a couple of weddings where the top tables as it were was only the bride and groom I thought it was lovely =]
CommentAuthorKaya
Think we're gonna have a sweetheart table :-)
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CommentAuthorvickyG
what about a table for just you two and ur bridesmaids and bestman... thats what were doing xx
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
Vicky B that might be a plan - but I'd then feel mean on Riks parents :S maybe I should talk to them and explain why I don't want Mum and Dad in the spotlight ... Hmm... Still a great idea thanks XX
CommentAuthorSharyorks
awwwww i think the sweetheart table sounds great! x
CommentAuthorCheryl22
lol i dont really like my dad as he is a **** so thats why he isnt coming - his entire side of family isnt invited either lol xx
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CommentAuthorZoe Kay
Wow I wish I had the balls to just say no to alot of people - my lodger just said ' its your day invite who you want' if thats the case its me rik his family and my sister lol! but I know I can't do that - not really :( Booooo
CommentAuthorvickyG
if thats what you want then u cn do that its your day... and it will cost less then lol xx
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
hahaha too true ....
CommentAuthorCheryl22
lol oh trust me i had a huge fight with my sister because im not inviting my dad ( he really is a horrible man and doesnt deserve to see me get married) and she said she wasnt going if he wasnt invited. So i told her 'fine then, your choice' but since then she has apoligised and she realises its up to us who we invite no-one else
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CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
i would have a table just for the two of you, otherwise sitting in with the rest of the seating plan is kinda the same as having a top table but just in a different shape! the people your worried about may still be offended if they don't get to sit with you x
CommentAuthorJane
Im in the same sort of position, I want to sit with new hubby and my 3 kids and hubbys parents but worry this will put my mum and step dads nose out of joint but to be honest I've known them both long enough to know that they will just criticise everything and be pessimistic about the whole venue/food/drink/everything and I dont want to have to listen to that all afternoon! Sat next to them at an uncles wedding and I was so p***ed off with them by the end of the day. I always think if you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all!
CommentAuthorMrs Joyce
we arent having a top table... we are sitting with best man and moh and their partners and kids.
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CommentAuthorZoe Kay
Janey it sounds like you'll be doing a 4 weddings with all that critisicsm !!!
CommentAuthorcatch
l'm having a top table sorry..but my sister did not last october when she got married, as our mum and dad have passed away and we have seven sisters and two brothers hard to choose a favourite lol, so she just had a table in the middle with her own family new h2b and thier kids it was lovley good luck hunni xx
You could have the bridesmaids and ushers on the top tables with you and ask both lots of parents to host a table each. The other option is to have tow small tables coming of the top table where you sit the parents.
CommentAuthorroxyvella
we're having a sweetheart table, n everyone else can sit whereever they want- makes life easier n ppl more comfortable sitting where they want, plus avoids table seating politics and gives the two of us some time together as newly weds x Zoe this is YOUR special day so u should do whatever makes U the happiest n ensures U r going to have a lovely stress free day!! goodluck!
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
We are having a top table but i have made it known that i do not want h2b father anywhere near me, so i have put him on the end. That way he is still part of the "important" people but not near me, he can't hold his tongue when it comes to being critical and i know he would be. He thinks i am money mad and that everything i want for the wedding seems to be £500. If he had it his way we would be getting married in Gretna Green, not spending a few grand on a hotel in Stamford. Grrrrr....... Anyway, the point is (i did have one, lol) that you have to do what you and your h2b want to make your day as special as it can be and if you want to sit on a seperate table then go for it, it will be like having a romantic dinner for 2, but with a large audience, lol. xx
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CommentAuthordiddy-ragdoll
im struggling with our top table as my parents are divorced and my dad remarried so its hard trying to juggle them onto the table lol i mentioned having a table just for me and h2b as a joke didnt realise we could actually do it! cool xx
CommentAuthornora
id go for the top table with u 2 nd ur close mates with you
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
It's taken 2 months , but after seeing the venue all dressed up on Sunday Rik n Me decided we WILL have a top table for me and him plus the Bridesmaids and the best man - maybe the usher too - I don't think we should pass on the top table now as the room was beautiful with it and would look odd without it :D yey for making decisions!!!!!!!!
CommentAuthorwelf
im not inviting my dad... hes a pleb! so we have explained to everyone else why and we are having 2 x bridemaids and 2 x best man and partners on top table!! we were going to have just the 2 of us but we have unlimited drinks for the top table included in the package so thought we would make the most of it lol
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
LOL @ Welf again - what a good idea .. wish my venue was giving free drinks xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I'm not having a top table and it has nothing to do with family issues. I just don't like being stuck out on a limb with every one staring at me. We are having round tables for everyone. My bridesmaids are going to be sat with their partners and family etc so we will be all spread out. We are only having 60 guests though so thats 6 tables so we are going to be on the middle table so we can talk to everyone.
CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
we were thinking of maybe havin a sweetheart table for us to cos h2b parents have had their chance cos his siter got married last year so not like they would miss out but my mum and dad hate each other so considering letting them my dad my mum and mil2b and fil2b host seperate tables for family members that way they still feel involved but no ones getting something better than the other
