Wedding Forum - Finally going for another scan...

Oh hun that is awful what they are doing to you. You must be stressed to the max. I can't even begin to imagine what this must be doing to you. I hope that things go as well as they can go. Is there any chance that the baby could still be there and alive and well and that you can keep it? Sending my love to you x x

thanks,no i ad 3 scans over 2week and they all showed that the baby had no heart beat so they are 100% certain its died,i really dont know how to feel i finally think its over and i need to deal with it and then im back here,im angry that this is happening more than owt,i just want to grieve for my baby but im stuck in limbo.xx

They need to get this sorted for you pronto instead of dragging it out even more. Like you say you can't move on while it is left like this. Let us know how things go later x x x

yeah well because i had a blood clot on my lung last year im on blood thining medication,so they took me in and gave me medication to induce the labour and help me pass the pregnancy because of the risk id lose to much blood.it didnt work first time so they did another lot and then i ended up with an infection in my blood and womb.they gave me antibiotics and the doctor later examined me and removed what she thought was the pregnancy with forceps.but looks like she was wrong as all they found at the lab was a small amount of placental tissue.like u said its horrible when they drag it out,and thank u,im sorry u v been in this situation urself.xx

its totally wrong they put women through this..its hard enough to loose your baby in the first place...when i was pregnant with my little girl i miscarried her twin and the doctors attitude when i got to a n e bleeding was awful..didnt care that i was in bits he just wanted to get me in and out as quickly as possible..tutting/blowing..was awful!i really hope they can sort this out for you today sweet ..big hugs xxx

Im so sorry to hear this, i cant imagine what you must be going through! I hope this gets sorted asap!
Sending love and hugs xxx

mrsbarker 2b not sure anywhere up to 4 mnth as was avin probs with my periods but the baby measured 9 wk so they think something went wrong at this time,but my hcg was still high so my body still thought it was ok.x

aww im so sorry hun sending love and hugs to you

thanks,i honestly dont know how i feel,i cant get the image out of my head and i feel so empty,cant stop crying.h2b wants to talk and bury it in a box in garden but i cant deal with it all now.he said being on here isnt good 4 me right now but strangely it is,think the fact i dont really know u all helps cos i can say how i really feel.if i tell him he just gets worried and thinks i need babysitting.x

as i said he sometimes helps to talk to people who have been through it and can offer you support. as much as your h2b will be upset aswell he doesnt know actually how horrible it is and doesnt actually understand.

talking to your h2b will help both of you deal with it. just try and see what happens.

xx

i know thanks,i will sit down and talk with him just need to get kids sorted first as dont want 2 fall apart in front of them.n i know u v all been great on hear listenin to me moan on i really appreciate it.xx

thank you,me either its certainly been a rough year.xx

thank u vicky.x

Sometimes it is easier to type your feelings to a stranger than it is to talk to real people. I can't imagine what you are going through but would say don't be hard on yourself and take your time to decide what to do. I think it would benefit you if you could at some point do what your h2b has suggested as it will help you through the grieving process. I know you are not ready now but try and give it some thought. Just remember that you have a lot of people who care about you and that you can talk to so don't feel alone and don't bottle up what is going on inside your head. Sending all my love to you and your h2b. x x

thanks,i think ur all right i need to talk 2 h2b and tell him how i feel and decide what to do.im just scared of what he ll think hes not good at talkin about how he feels and doesnt like it when i get upset so it makes it hard to talk sometimes.i know we have 2 lovely children and my partners made no secret of the fact he d love another but the thought terrifies me,i know i have 2 children and some people go thru this without being able to av a child but each time i miscarry it gets harder to feel the excitement of a pregnancy i just wait for something to go wrong.maybe its just too soon to think about it,i just cant deal with anything else bad happening at the min,im physically and emotionally a wreck and i need to sort that out for the sake of my children.xx

thank u sian.x

Oh I'm really sorry to read this- my thoughts are with you- sending you warm thoughts too. xxxxx

thank u everyone xxx

think it finally hit this morning,on a good note i can now grieve and move on,id decided to bury the baby in a house plant but h2b is worried about cats getting it so going to bury it in garden and get a nice all yr plant to mark it.xx

thank you xjox.xxx