We would prefer cash but would never ask if we get gifts we will be as grateful as we are for the cash. People spend a lot going to a wedding what with outfits over night accom and things I think in my opinion its a bit cheeky to ask xx
CommentAuthoralibum
In these modern times i think that its areasonable request as most couples already have everything they need in their homes already.also trying to find gifts for weddings can be a nightmare. my h2b and i have requested no gifts but if our guests want to give something then a donation to our honeymoon fund would be greatly appreciated.;0) xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
wev asked for vouchers,as we want to redecorate our living room,i think its perfectly acceptable,long gone are the days where you end up with 5 toaster 3 kettles and 10 bales of towels lol
CommentAuthorMrsd2b
Id never ask for cash, it wouldnt bother me if people rather give cash instead of a present but i wouldnt expect a present either, and wont be doing a gift list (only having a small wedding of 16 people and 5 of those are children so no point in a gift list) xx
When i told my mum that because ive had my own house for the last 15 years we were going to ask for contributions towards a honeymoon instead her response was................"you can't do that, thats blood y rude". So what we have decided to do is get one of those poems but adjust it slightly so that it includes a gift list as well so people know we would like money for the honeymoon but they also have the option of buying a gift if they feel uncomfortable just being able to afford say a fiver. I might add the gift list will only have silly things on like a just married picture frame or a set of teaspoons (no matter how many i buy i can never find one when i want one mmmmmmm).
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CommentAuthorDeedee
i think its a great idea, espically if you have something in mind,so the guests know where their money is going, like it will help pay for our honeymoon, or we would like to do up our garden etc. ~In some religions thy think nothingof pinning money onto the brides dress!
CommentAuthorxx MrsM2b xx
My family are cool....they decided that vouchers for a honeymoon was the way to go as we have lived together for 5 years and have everything "housey", we done this for my niece who got wed last year and she went on a 2 week all inc honeymoon and had enough left over for this years hols too! :D
CommentAuthorMRST
i think its rude to ask directly.... those wee poems are a good way to put it accross x
CommentAuthorRoxii
Erm.. I'm not sure, on one hand I'd not be overly fussed if I was invited to a proper wedding and was asked for money.. But on the other hand, I'd feel very cheeky doing it at my wedding. So I suppose if you know people can afford it without breaking the bank then fair enough, but my family aren't that well off, so I couldn't ask them for money especially since they're paying for their outfits for my day, travel (some overnight accomadation if needed) it's loads to fork out.
CommentAuthorginge23
I agree Roxii. Most weddings we go to we do give money unless they have asked for other wise but I myself could not ask. xx
CommentAuthorshellay
I agree, we are asking for money or holiday vouchers so that we can go on a cruise, I do not see anything wrong with asking for money, we do not need anything for the house so it would be a waste and at least people do not have to think about what they have to buy and can give what they can afford instead of ending up with the most expensive present on the list x
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CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
I feel abit awkward asking for money, but we have everything we need for our home... however we don't have funds for a honeymoon so i think i'm going to have to ask :s
CommentAuthorSuzi
Ive asked for money as we don't need anything, in this day and age I think it is acceptable and a lot easier for people as well
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
The problem I have with giving cash is that its impersonal and shows no thought. Presents are supposed to have thought and effort put into them. As for the poems- I find them condescending and rude (no offense meant to someone using them). They look like you are trying to hide something.
However, there is one idea I have seen with money that I do like. Breaking down the honeymoon/house renovation etc into parts, then guests 'buy' a certain thing. Such as a dinner one evening, or an excursion etc.
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CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
We will be asking for money but will have a gift list set up for those who would prefer to buy us a gift. We will find a nice of way of saying we would prefer cash for our house renovations but have a gift list for those who would prefer to buy something. I'm not expecting money or gifts from anyone, it's their choice, if they don't get anything I'm not going to kick them off the guest list. x
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
one friend of mine asked people to pay for experiences on their honeymoon and there are sites now that do wedding lists for honeymoons. I would not ask directly for money towards the cost of the wedding but i think its okay to include things like honey moons on the gift list.
is it rude to send the gift list with the wedding invitation do you think?
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CommentAuthorRoxii
What is a gift list? Oh gosh I'm rubbish at this wedding lark! lol x
CommentAuthorJoolsy
We would prefer cash to put towards a deposit for a house; we are still at my parents just now and I think it's pretty pointless buying us gifts as we got lots from our enagement party last year which are stored away as we live out a tiny bedroom so we really don't have any room for gifts but in saying that I would never ask for money I think it's a bit rude. If we do get gifts which I think we will we will be as grateful for these as we will be for the cash it's just the cash will be more helpful to us. xx
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CommentAuthorminniesjocky
Hi everyone, this is the first time i have commented on any of these posts so please don't be offened by anything i write. I don't mean any of it in a nasty way i'm just putting my opinion across!
I don't think it really matters everyone is different. If people ask for money then they must have a reason for asking, the same as people that ask for gifts. Anyway you look at it your still asking for money! But thats just my opinion. Although i do have to say it's not something me and my fiance have thought about, we have lived together for a very long time and so have everything we need. Gifts or money should never be a priority as long as the people you invite come to your wedding and have fun! Having a great day is the best gift you could ask for. x
CommentAuthorpinkieprincess21
i personally wouldnt ask for money, but thats me, i know lots of people do, some people dont think its right to do so, but i think it also depends on the way it is asked for. the way my brother and his fiancee did it i felt was very rude!! and so did the rest of my family. xxx
CommentAuthor~* Jen *~
In my circumstances, I need house things, so we'll be doing a gift list at probably John Lewis/Debenhams and a cheap alternative too. I don't live with my h2b so we need house things, however if this wasn't the case, I'd probably ask for contributions towards a honeymoon, or possibly money, but I think money is a bit impersonal. xxx
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
when we move out in a couple of months we're gona buy loads of cheap stuff then get a gift list for the wedding with some decent stuff on. but if we didn't need house stuff i would prob ask for thomas cook vouchers rather than money
CommentAuthorangeleyes
I NEVER ask for money from people, its so bad that my friend has owed me £750 for a year lol and i wont ask her to start paying me back. but there is just no other option for us, we have lived together for three years now and we have everything we need and more.
CommentAuthorlittle miss red head
I wouldn't ask for money, even though its probably the most useful thing people could give us as we already live together and don't really need any of the usual wedding gifts. I've never been offended when other people have asked for money but I've always bought them a present rather than give cash - I find its a cheaper option and I need to save money for my own wedding : )
CommentAuthorkatrinatudor
we are asking for money for the honeymoon and everyone has said to us its fine =] i dont think its rude if it comes in handy its better than getting given something that you wont use =]
CommentAuthorMagsy
everyone is different and what one person finds acceptable, someone else doesn't. we don't need anything as we have lived together for a couple of years and by ourselves for a few years before that. we're not expecting gifts from anyone we have asked to our wedding, that's not why we're getting married. i personally wouldn't feel comfortable asking for money though
