I have 3 friends who I love and respect equally for different reasons. I have my "best" friend who lives 5 min walk from me, I work with her and we go out together with our kids 2-3 times a week, I have my "oldest" friend who lives a 20 min drive from me, she's like a sister to me but I probably only see her maybe once or twice a month, and I have my "uni" friend who lives a 2 hour drive away, we've been through thick and thin together we lived together for two years, but because of the distance I now only see her every 3-4 months (although we talk regularly). I have asked my "best" friend to be my chief bm as she's so close to me and we do so much together and she's perfect for the job. although I know my two other friends will be honored to be bridesmaids I don't want to make them feel like they mean less to me than my "best" friend because she's my chief bridesmaid. so I was think about giving them there own title and roles for example I was going to give my "uni" friend the title "best maid" as she will point blank refuse to ware a dress and I wouldn't force her to as I know how uncomfortable she would be, so she will be in a suit, but I can't think of a title for my "oldest friend". also what roles can I give "oldest" and "uni" friends to help me with planning etc and give them some responsibility. (I hope this all made sense lol) tia for any thoughts and ideas you may have.
31/12/2017 A New Year, A New Life, A New Husband and Wife
CommentAuthorFlossie
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To avoid all these complications I just said from day one my 4 bridesmaids will all be equal to each other, not having a MOH or a chief bridesmaid. I just couldn't choose between them and wouldn't want to make the other three feel like their friendship means any less to me.. I don't think you need to give the other 2 certain 'roles', just make sure you include them in things and make them feel involved :) x
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CommentAuthorTeresa
I agree, don't give any official roles,treat them all the same, each one will help In there own way and will feel special as they are part of your wedding party,it's a win win situation xx
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Yip I agree too, keep them all the same.
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
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I also have 3 BMs
My best friend who has been like a sister to me and is the only person that stuck by me since we were tots. She is my Matron on Honour (married)
My friend who I met through work quite a few years ago who again has been there for me, I see her all the time and she's helpling me plan my wedding. She is my Maid of Honour (unmarried)
Then there is my H2Bs sister who is my Bridesmaid who has never complained about her role and is just very happy she is part of the bridal party :)
I also have my best friends little girl as a flower girl.
All my ladies are working together and get along really well and helping me in different ways. Helen (Matron) is helping me a lot in a motherly support role and will be giving me away and lives 500 miles away so is limited on what practical job she can do at this time. Kim (Maid) is my happy helper and helps me bring things together. At the moment my BM Emma doesn't have specific roles until nearer the wedding as she is a full time paedeatric nurse 2 hours away.
For me it came pretty easy to decide who does what
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Engaged 13th June 2013
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I only had 2 plus 1 FG. My sister was by default my MOH/CBM as we're so close and I was same for her when she got hitched. My best mate however helped out with pretty much most of what my sister did so there was very little difference between the two.
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