I'm sure every family has that one awkward member that doesn't get along with anyone, never has anything nice to say and generally wants the day to be about them...now the question is would you still invite them? After all they are family but you don't want to risk someone ruining your day...what do you do?
CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
At the end of the day it's truly down to you and your OH . What I would consider is would it be easier to invite in the long term ? As in in if not invited would this cause issues within family for years to come . What kind of drama could they really do on the day ? Is there a family member who could talk to them about their behaviour ?
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CommentAuthorMrs Carver 2B
It's literally one person that doesn't like anyone else and nobody else gets on with, I can see there being arguments, they're one of those who can't resist snide little comments and I can guarantee someone will snap back there's only so much people can take. It's so hard really torn between what we feel we should do and what we'd rather do xx
CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
Could you get away with not inviting in the day by saying numbers are tight then just invite in evening ?
However if it will defo ruin your day personally I would say no invite but it is your final choice :)
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
H2B has an aunt who has to make everything about her and be the victim, and an uncle that is incredibly mean and rude to everyone. They're his mum's siblings and have never got on, as they wind each other up, and each thinks that they're more important. We have to invite them; neither us or MIL would hear the end of it otherwise. We just have to treat them both absolutely equally.
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From what you have said I wouldn't be inviting them, have you suggested not inviting them to your mum/dad to get there opinion? I've left loads of family off from my side as I never see them (over 10 years), I'd rather have people there we see regularly, my family agreed with me.
CommentAuthorErinV
I have someone like this -always grumpy, hard to talk to and attention seeking and I have to invite them as they are close family. They are not nasty just self obsessed but depending on their mood they could be alright on the day. Too be fair the B&G are so busy on the day trying to speak with everyone I don't see how you would notice that one person much, especially if their not in the wedding party.
CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
Id just go with an evening invite x
CommentAuthorAprilS61
Just because they're family it doesn't mean you have to invite them. Weigh up the sides and if it would more trouble not inviting them, have a serious think about it. It depends on their behaviour and personality, so if they would just go in a strop for a few days then so be it, but if it would be more serious then maybe ask parents on their opinions and if someone can 'look after them' and make sure they're behaving on the day.
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CommentAuthorJennK
Sometimes it is less hassle to invite them than not invite them. It's a tricky situation, I have a family member coming who I would rather wasn't but the repercussions of not inviting him are worse!
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CommentAuthorVickiD69
Mine happens to be my only sister and MOH! She makes everything about her, moans when its not and when a certain event such as my birthday weekend away has happened, she moans that she wants to go home and ruins our holiday. She insists on planning all the hen party and 'something old, something blue' where she doesn't like me asking or telling. yet she gets her landlord to plan it all instead as she said she just wants an invite to turn up without all the work. She is seriously jealous as i am the youngest and she has no boyfriend. She also wants me to buy everything for her and gifts and such when no thanks, help or giving a t**s! sorry for the rant i just needed to get that out!
CommentAuthorJoey35
Yep, and in my case it's my mum! So i'm stuck! I obviously want my mum there but have had to not invite other people to keep her happy. It's stress and upset I could do without.
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
For me it's my big sister. She is not in my wedding party but she is invited to the day. She will TRY to make the day about her be it by trying to make some display of herself or announcing something. BMs know her pretty well and so do a lot of my close friends so they have all already said that if anything looks like it's about to kick off... well... I won't know about it.
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CommentAuthorMrs Carver 2B
I've had a good long chat to my dad as mine also happens to be a very close family member and even though they're not getting on my dad has promised to keep an eye on her and stop anything before it has a chance to start. He's also warned me if she just disappears it's because he's thrown her out :') It's sadly satisfying to know everyone else seems to have the same problem my OHs family don't seem to ever have anything like this they all get on brilliantly and they're a massive family where as mine is tiny!
CommentAuthorVelcro
sounds like his sister, she needs to be the centre of attention ALL the time, you would think my hen do was her hen do last weekend, the dj in the club we ended up with even said HER name and that she was with her hens lol. and every single group picture she was in the middle of them all.
it doesnt bother me too much, she annoys me for sure, but she's clearly got problems and she's pretty darn lonely too by all accounts, but the way she's goes about things, it's no wonder really. I feel sorry for her, if anything. Im glad she isnt bridesmaid any more either as she cant ruin my pics now lol
unfortunaltey, i cant not invite her, and i doubt i can get away with putting her on the table furthest away either, but for your question, it depends on if you can get away with not inviting her, what would cause less stress? if you do invite her, shove her on the futhest table away
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CommentAuthorTanyaS78
Im having the same kind of problem at the moment. I dont really get on with my dad, so i havent invited him as i know it will just end in a horrible night (asking my grandad to walk me down the aisle) but i wanted to tell my aunty (dads sister) that im getting married. My only problem is that i know she will tell him about it. How am i best wording the announcement to my aunty? She lives quite far away, and i havent spoken to her properly since my mum and dad split up years ago.
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
My mum and sister aren't coming to ours. If they don't like it, they can shove it!! You shouldn't be forced to invite anyone because they're family. If you don't want them there, then don't invite them. You only get to have your wedding day once (hopefully!) so why have someone there that will make you worry all night? x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's entirely the decision of the bride and groom. Personally I wouldn't invite them, that said I was forced to invite b1tch cousin who my sister and I hate because she's been a total c0w to both of us, like really mean stuff, thankfully she didn't come anyway. My sister had the same issue with same cousin. Families, can always count on them for some wedding drama.
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CommentAuthorocean
I've ended up with one pain in the arse family member. originally he was supposed to be bringing his Son. Then he asked if his 'bit on the side' could come and I said yes. 4 weeks before the wedding he told me that 'bit on the side was no longer coming as they had had some in differences etc. I was annoyed but thought never mind etc x Last night, he messages me again to say that he isn't bringing his Son anymore but can he bring a new 'bit on the side' that he met a few weeks ago!!! I have had to say no as I'm at the end of my patience with this one!!!! All because of him the seating plan now had two people who aren't attending on it!!!!
CommentAuthorVelcro
in regards to these problem members of our wedding, i didnt even notice any of them at my wedding last week, there were so many people there i actually liked and wanted to spend time with i didnt pay any mind to them and it was a perfect day.
You can choose your friends......!! bloody families.
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CommentAuthorTeresaC54
I'm not inviting our one black sheep - likely the rest of the family are in complete agreement and she still doesn't know anything about it - sad but why risk your day being ruined for the sake of one person?
