I'm seeking for advice. My MIL made wedding dresses/entourage gowns for friends and family (not her profession/career). She made 2 daughters'-in-law and H2B's ex wife's wedding gowns. H2B said that having his mum make my dress is an option though I explained to him that I would like this particular designer from the Philippines (who I have been following since 2007) and particularly important to me is the use of a specific fabric that is indigenous (fabric made from pineapple leaves) to our country as I would like to have something culturally important to me on our wedding day. He now agreed that he will not get involved when it comes to the dress. But now I feel guilty because I remember him saying before that although MIL will not say anything, she will feel disappointed if I do not ask her - but the thing is I do not want to ask her. What if she says YES. One of my SIL sent a message on viber on the family group if I started looking at dresses and I do not know what to say and cause upset within the family.
I do not know if I am being paranoid in thinking that there is some sort of an expectation from his side of the family for me to ask MIL. Should I just not mention anything? Tomorrow I would be trying on dresses so I could get an idea what style I really like and waiting for the designer to email me her sketches.
Help, please!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
HOw about going for a coffee or something with her and explain to her what you've said about it being culturally important to you, and how you have had your eye on a specific designer for many years, and that although you would love her to make your dress, you would rather go for the designer dress you are after.
What about her making the entourage gowns? At least she will have something to do with the making of dresses for the wedding. Would you be happy with that?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorclairenina
I agree, you might be surprised by her reaction if talk her through what you've explained to us. I think it's a lovely idea, and has a great sentiment behind it
CommentAuthorKathleenS78
Thank you ladies! I'm feeling more positive after your advice/comments :)
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I agree with GF.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
what about having the dress you want for day time and asking her to make you a dress for the eveving to change into and then you have to special dresses xx
CommentAuthorKathleenS78
That is a nice idea too MrsThomson. TBH I have not thought of that - something more cocktail/evening dress. ;)
CommentAuthorCarrieD26
Agreed. Talk to her and I am sure she will understand and between you, you can find plenty of things she can be involved with making so she feels included whilst you still get your cultural values met. What lovely ideas.
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
do you have a picture of the style ofdress you are looking for from your designer xx