When we set the date a friend insisted on making the cake..i felt i could not say no (i need to imporove my no saying ability) so we changed the cake we were going to have so she could make the cake. The orginal cke was very bright an loud in total contrast to the black and ivory theme.
I have had a text off her telling me to pay £70 into her bank account as she is icing the cakes but has had to get someone else to make the cake.
I feel let own as the wedding is 4 weeks a way and this is something I was not expecting.
If at the begining I was told this I would not have minded as much as it is not issue with the money at all just feel it is rude to insist on doing the cake so much I changed my original cake as the one i wanted was to complex and end up have to pay extra, at the last minute to.
CommentAuthorsarah
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Wow, so she's having someone bake the cakes but she'll still ice them? at this point I'd question her ability to do them at all. Because I have a lite frustration tolerance I'd be tempted to go elsewhere. Otherwise I guess it's time for an uncomfortable conversation about why she purchased the cakes without telling you first.
CommentAuthorChanelP
Hmm this is the tricky situation I don't think she should be asking for money after insisting she do it. Why does someone else have to make the cake? She should have told you sooner.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Im sorry but the minute she realised she couldnt do it she should have told you and said 'look, i can get someone to make it for seventy quid, and ill ice it, but it will cost you seventy quid.
I agree that i would question her ability to ice it....
You are probably short of options know, but i thing marks and sparks to them in 27 days? if not, you should let her know that this wasnt expected.
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
i agree with the other girls, its a bit funny that she offers it to you then asks for money afterwards, especially seeing as as a friend she should know that money is often focused elsewhere, especially when she said it was free! Personally I'd ask if there was any way to cancel it, after all, there are options that can be less than £90! xxx
She has the cakes iced etc but has said she needs to pay the lady for making the cakes...she said it has cost £70 for the cakes and £120 in icing it..she is happy to pay the £120 for the icing but does it cost £70 t make the cakes and that much to ice 3 cakes that are 12", 10" and 8"? I am not a cake maker or decorator but a friend has commented to me that her whole cake ingrediets did not cost £70 for the cake and the icing ingredients.
I am annoyed as my cousin would have done the cake we wanted in the 1st place.
If i had not had enough stress recently i would have told her to keep the cake tbh but i do not have the energy so will just pay her and hope we get the cake we have asked for..If not off to marks 9am on the sat Morning ....
She actually texted me yesterday morning to say hope everything goes ok with the funeral then aded the message about the cake to it...
CommentAuthorStephDobsonx
I'd have been really annoyed and have told her that she said she'd do it, If she wasn't doing it she should have said so you could have sorted something else out! x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Could you ask your cousin if it's still possible to make the cake actually want hun as I don't see why you should compromise on that. Then if she says yes then tell your friend not to bother as she never consulted you over paying £70 for the actual cake and you actually didn't want the style she was doing for you xx
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CommentAuthorKellyN29
i'd be so annoyed, probably lack of communication. It would be best to have a chat with her and let her know how you feel. Of course my first reaction was tell her to beep off but thinking about it she could of been dreading telling you she couldn't afford to pay for them to be made and wanted them just right for you. Heaven knows why she didn't just buy the cakes from M&S they'd of been half the price but you do daft things when you are trying not to let people down
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
WOOFT talk about cheeky that terrible no wonder your not happy huni i would see if i could get the cake you wanted :) xxx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
tbh i think the first thing i would be asking is why she agreed to £70 for the cakes being made with out asking you first ... its not her money to spend ! ...having made that decision im sorry but she should be footing the bill
thank you all...it has bene a help to know I am not out of order thinking she was wrong to do this. I have decided we will pay and not get over heated but it has been good to vent.
£120 for the ingredients to ice 3 cakes? Seriously? I think she is out of order and would be tempted to tell her where to go, especially when she text you for the money on the day of the funeral - as if to say I know it's the funeral but more importantly you owe me £70?!
CommentAuthorShazk
Oh Kim ur nicer than me id of blown that is just damn right rude 1) it cant cost that much 2) to agree with out asking you thats its ok 3) with what u have been going throught at the moment a friend surely would of been bit more thoughtful xx
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CommentAuthorGillianE
how rude of your friend, if she offered to do the cake then she should honour that offer. If at any point she realised just how much it would cost she should have told you alot sooner. Before agreeing to anything. friend or no friend i wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut on this one.
Hope you like it when you get it.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Hmm my friend is making mine for us too and we are paying her £50 for the ingrediants etc but I agree with lala she was supposed to making it for you and it was her decision to pay someone else to make them so she should have consulted you before going ahead with it! Her decision...her bill!
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CommentAuthorbrilly
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I agree with hails it was her decision so should be her bill, My h2b aunty is making ours and I offered her the money for the ingredients and she told me not to be silly it wasnt costing much to make and it was our wedding gift all in all she said the cost would be less then £50 for ingredients I would ask you cousin about how much it would cost to make athe cake and ice it then drop it into conversation with your friend as it sounds like shes trying to pull a fast 1 x
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CommentAuthorJennyHeather
If your friend offered to make the cake she could have said at the time how much she will charge for you, not tell you while or after it's been done it's a bit rude.
CommentAuthorAussieLinz
It doesn't cost £120 to ice 3 cakes. Fondant isn't that expensive! She needs to be careful because if she charges for time & materials like a cake board etc then she can be fined heavily if she isn't registered!
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I wouldn't of paid it, I know you want to keep it civilised, but there's no way I'd pay that much to 'ice' the cakes! & I do agree with the other ladies, her decision so her bill, she should of asked you first. But why insist on making it for you, if she couldn't even do it?! xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
our cake was made as gift and they way my friend was going to do it wouldn't work so she needed to buy extra bits .... i too offered to give her the money and he response was
"no .. i said it was a gift so whatever it entails its still a gift "
Hmm thats a bit cheeky in my opinion. If she said shed make it hen she should have done so. If she couldnt make it she should have told you and let u decide what to do. Im sorry but I agree with the others. If she decided it had to be made elsewhere and accepted the 70 fee then she should pay it. You didnt ask her to do that xx
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I think it's a bit cheeky to be honest, and don't think i would pay. But if time is limited I suppose you have to weigh it up x x
CommentAuthorKristina
All i can say is a bit cheeky considering that she said that she would do your wedding cake, but then says that she wants £70 and she isnt even doing the wedding cake itself apart from icing it. If she knew that she couldnt do the wedding cake, then she shouldnt have agreed.
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CommentAuthorKimD7
i am really annoyed now as I ha a feeling it would not cost £70 to make and ice the cakes...I doubt this friend will be a fries after the wedding...I am not going to say anything before the wedding but afterwards I am going to tell her how is feel.
The fact she asked for the money the day of my dads funeral is really bugging me to....
Thank you everyone for making me feel I am not just being over sensitive. I am aware at this moment in time I quiet be but glad to know other people feel what she has done is wrong.
CommentAuthorsarah
You so aren't being over sensitive, I think you're being very diplomatic and accommodating if I'm honest.
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
I had this 2-3 weeks before my wedding. I think friends want to be involved as soon as you tell them you're getting married, then as it gets closer they panic. was she going to pay for the cake originally? if so then the fact she isnt making it anymore and is getting someone to make it for her, she should really pay......but if you dont trust her anymore.......do what she has done and change your mind. She has changed her mind about making your cake, so tell her not to bother at all and get something else sorted. M&S do gorgeous cakes for about £100 for a 3 tier.
I know its money you hadnt budgeted for, but she is expecting £70 so I would just tell her forget it and get one from somewhere else. If she asks you why you changed your mind......ask her why SHE did? turn it back around on her to make her feel bad.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
OMG I just read that she asked for money the day of your dads funeral, I am so annoyed with her right now....! She is obviously charging you £70 to pay someone else to make the cakes......cos it dont cost that to ice 3 cakes.
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CommentAuthorKatya
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I bought the white icing - the stuff you roll with a rolling pin- same stuff used on wedding cakes etc. i have loads left, i iced one 8 inch cake with it and have about 2 thirds of a pack left, the pack only cost... wait for it.....
£1.99!!! from a supermarket beginning with "W"!!!!
so to ice 3 tiers - just the icing will be... £3.98!!!!
I see she is asking you to pay £70 for the cakes & £120 for the icing.... well according to my calculations... & forgive me if I'm wrong but £120 - £3.98 = £116.02 overcharge!!! - wouldnt like to be your friend if she's getting ripped off like that! let alone being her when you give her a peice of your mind!
