Wedding Forum - FMIl and h2b changing mind on including...

Urrrgh kind of annoyed; my fmil has decided that she wants h2b to include the kids and make them flower girls;page boys and junior bridesmaids (in Chloe's case). I'm kind of annoyed as h2b said he did want the kids involved in the ceremony and breakfast which would be fine if he had told me in the first place as we had originally agreed that there would be no kids till the evening reception. But as long as fmil sticks to what she has said and pays for the dresses e.t.c then I don't mind though we'll still have to fork out another £60 to include them in the wedding breakfast (it's £14.99 for kids instead of £24.99) along with flowers and activities...

I might just get them flower girl wands but not sure what to get for gifts or activities? Do I need to?

Also there are six of them all together...
Ages from 10 to 4...

For my page boys (my sons) I have bought them a personalised page boy teddy and filled a jar of sweets and made my own personalised sticker for the front (the jar of sweets including the sweets has cost about £3 as I got a few big bags of sweets from £ shop) and my bridesmaids (my daughter and niece) I've got them a necklace and bracelet that says bridesmaid on the box.in regards to activities i downloaded a wedding activity book template which of course was free,I bought some cheap packs of wax crayons from the bay of e which were about 10p each for a pack of 4 colours and I bought the cello bags you get for when you make your own cards and put them in there.i had to do 12 of these and they work out about 20p per activity pack.xx

Sorry but who the ***** does she think she is "deciding " that you should have kids at your wedding regardless of who is paying ...

Mr lalas mum tried this over his nieces saying that she would pay for dresses etc but we DIDNT want then as bm's full stop ,

I agree with lala, if it's not what u want, then u should put your foot down x

Who's kids are they?

I agree with lala when I read your original post my first thought what who is she to tell you to have kids involved in your wedding.

My sister is getting married less than nine months after us but she has decided she doesn't want the kids involved in her bridal party her only nephew is my son if she decided she wants him as a page boy then starts her choice no one else's. But the kids and there is only three going to their wedding will be there all day. Our son, and two of the grooms cousins.

Fingers crossed you can use the school excuse!! Xxx

She has no right to tell your h2b he needs to have his sister and brothers in his/your wedding party. If they were kids from a previous relationship etc then I would say fair enough but not.

Weddings are expensive enough without other people telling you who to have in your wedding party.

Just tell her no if you really don't want it it's your and h2bs day unless h2b really wants them there?!?